Bio-Female Hitching Alone?

[Bullet]

this is kind of old, but I just got back from hitching almost 6,000 miles from NC to Cali and back by myself and had no problems. (I'm a petite female and only had my pack with me...a knife for protection, nothing else.)
I didn't realize that solo female hitching was unusual until I got out there, but I much prefer it. I find traveling with males is really frustrating. Everyone assumes that the guy is there protecting the girl and she's just tagging along. In fact, many drivers (male or female) won't even speak to me when I'm with a man. They only talk to the guy and completely ignore me. People tend to talk to those who they seek approval from, and after being dismissed over and over again as more of a pet to a male traveler than an independent human, I've pretty much vowed never to travel with anyone again. I end up resenting the person I'm with and that's not fun. (But I like being alone anyway, so maybe it's just me. Or maybe I just haven't met that perfect road dog yet...)
You just gotta be tough and have a good attitude. Most people are impressed and interested and very few are dangerous. I tend to believe that expecting danger only invites it. The world is a beautiful place full of beautiful people. You can do it!

 

[Mouse]

yeah... that and when I've hitched with guys they tend to get controling and annoying.

and I've also had a few times where people will pull over to pick us up and ask the guy if he's trying to pimp me and how much? super annoying.

 

[rideitlikeyoustoleit]

One thing I'm glad about that came from this post is seeing all the awesome, radical ladies on STP!

 

[Ravie]

eh you can definately travel alone, as long As you a good actor. if a situation occurs, just act crazier than the other person and wip out a knife. worst possible situation is they have a gun, wich even with a guy with you its kinda a shitty situation....i'm not helping am i?

 

[JahDucky]

Well what I have done to be safe is i wear clothes that cover my body very well but still look clean cause nobody really wants to pick up someone who looks like they may have crapped themselves and i text the license plate number to my boyfriend and mom and if they do try to make any advances and the first thing i say is that i have some std and they have to take your word for it whether you have one or not. usually works for me to keep me safe. dont humor innapropriate conversations...its all gravey.

 

[finn]

...just act crazier than the other person and whip out a knife. worst possible situation is they have a gun, which even with a guy with you its kinda a shitty situation....

Heh, the thing about having a knife out, is that if the other person reaches for a weapon, you really should start stabbing and slashing stat.

 

[macks]

Worst case scenario (I guess besides them just blowing your brains out before you can react) :you might have to kill someone, and if they don't crash the car in their last moments and kill you too you better make for the hills and hope the 5-0 don't catch up with ya!

 

[Ravie]

whatever. ide rather stab someone instead of being raped and killed, or killed and raped... but i guess out of what ive experienced it sounds good to stab and ask questions later

 

[Mouse]

Well what I have done to be safe is i wear clothes that cover my body very well

indeed. the ONE time I had trouble with a ride was on a really hot day I was trying to thumb outta town and I was wearing a t shirt over a tank top. I got crazy hot and took of the t and was wearing a normal tank top and ..hmm.. you know the rest really. Creepers.

 

[Ravie]

if you have the option you can allways dress like a dude? i dont know. i have double d's...doesnt matter how much i cover.

 

[Mouse]

eh, true. I tend to dress and look boyish all the time but people still mess with ya at times.

 

[bote]

I think we forget how easily we die, technically speaking, which accounts for a lot of the losers out there not respecting women`s (guys too, but different) boundaries. It`s the last thing you want to do, but travel where you will, knowing that if a situation arrises you can do what needs to be done.

 

[Ravie]

sometimes it realy does come down to do or die out there. survival of the fittest.

 

[Tosh]

lol man, well being a girl, and going solo. i can say is not a good, idea. fuck even tiffany (panik) almost got her self raped by some drunken homebum rofl, i had to stab that fucker while she was laying down a hill (she fell down) unconcious, and later blew a .43... but needless to say shes somewhat of a bad ass, and she wouldnt have been able to do shit. so... i dont recomend any females to travel, by train or hitch solo...

 

[wartomods]

And boys , too, there are lots of gay truckers, ahahaah

 

[Mouse]

tis true

 

[rideitlikeyoustoleit]

Just thought I would update, I ended up hitching from Oly to Ashland because the person I was traveling with was driving me crazy! and because my partner is in Ashland and I missed the fuck out of him, and all went well. I feel like the worst thing was camping alone. I will probably end up hitching alone back to sacramento in a week or so, we'll see.

Next time I will probably want to have a weapon and a cell phone though.

 

[Bullet]

It makes me sad to see so many people so fearful. I always wore my Carharts and a tank top. I have a petite frame and am pretty curvy with long hair, and I still had no trouble. Just the usual, general creepiness. Maybe I was lucky, but I think that once you gain that confidence that traveling gives you, the way you hold yourself says a lot. I've always identified a lot with being male so maybe that helps too, and it's some unconscious thing.
I did have trouble with sleeping at night. It was more of a personal paranoia than a reality, though. I was more scared of being startled awake than of being hurt. I didn't sleep much. Drank a lot of endless coffee pots at truck stops...but honestly I could have slept in a lot of places and been fine. I even slept overnight in a few cars with no problems- although I was definitely on guard and listened to that little voice in my head that tells me when things are fishy. So I only stayed with a couple of drivers when I was SURE it would be ok. I guess I don't recommend that though, lol.

 

[rideitlikeyoustoleit]

It makes me sad to see so many people so fearful. I always wore my Carharts and a tank top. I have a petite frame and am pretty curvy with long hair, and I still had no trouble. Just the usual, general creepiness. Maybe I was lucky, but I think that once you gain that confidence that traveling gives you, the way you hold yourself says a lot. I've always identified a lot with being male so maybe that helps too, and it's some unconscious thing.
I did have trouble with sleeping at night. It was more of a personal paranoia than a reality, though. I was more scared of being startled awake than of being hurt. I didn't sleep much. Drank a lot of endless coffee pots at truck stops...but honestly I could have slept in a lot of places and been fine. I even slept overnight in a few cars with no problems- although I was definitely on guard and listened to that little voice in my head that tells me when things are fishy. So I only stayed with a couple of drivers when I was SURE it would be ok. I guess I don't recommend that though, lol.

Well, I disagree that it is a building up of confidence through traveling that makes bio-females traveling alone a less fearful thing. I also don't want to bum you out by being, in my opinion, cautous.

It's a pretty obvious social flaw that certain biomen abuse and assault womyn. I don't see how being aware and cautous of pontential predators is a sad or negative thing.

I have a hard time walking down the street here in my own neightborhood. I have had people even try to shove me in their cars. So in a way I suppose I'm kind of insulted by you insinuating that wanting some mace and a phone is a product fear, and is sad to you that I feel that way, as if my fear is the product some main stream media induced hysteria that I should unschool myself or something.

I dont' know, maybe I interpreted that wrong, and if so I am sorry, for that.

 

[compass]

I think you may have read too much into that. Seems like a pretty vague and innocent statement to me.