Who else does winter do this to?

[Mouse]

I've heard that L. CK rant in his stand up and i loved it because it's very true... but I think it's all in how you look at it. Yeah, you could probably die alone.. but maybe you'll get lucky and be the one that dies first? lol

it's all about chances.

 

[caspertheghost]

I don't know. Dating is alright. And I didn't really agree with the cheating thing, since I'm trying to explore polyamoury. But I do still have weird jealousy issues, and even if I feel like I own those feelings or whatever, it still sucks. A few weeks ago I would've totally disagreed with all this, because I'm on good terms with pretty much all my ex's. But I do think like that a lot.

Like, even if I see someone that I think is real hot, and I could imagine us having a conversation, ultimately the horrible micro-managey part of my brain takes over, and I'm like, "Well. Where the fuck would it lead anyway?"

Completelly agree and feel the same way.. Cant seem to get rid of my jealous tendencies but at the same time don't like the relationship boundaries whatsoever

 

[CardBoardBox]

Naturally we're driven to find companionship. We're born into this world in pairs and we desire to leave it as such. I think a big thing with dating is seeing things for how they are, and not how you want them to be. Dating is a weird thing to me. The labels "Boyfriend" and "Girlfriend" hold very heavy connotations. They carry expectancies as to how one is supposed to act, and I think that's why a lot of people get scared when they get into a serious relationship. The way I go about things is finding someone I'm comfortable with. Someone I can communicate freely with and be brutally honest with without them getting offended. I've had too many experiences go rotten on me because of the boyfriend/girlfriend label and the expectancies they carry. Just be. There doesn't have to be that solidity if both parties know exactly what their relationship is and what they want from one another. If you're not communicating and being honest with another, then it just ain't gonna work. As for dating... I think going on dates is an odd thing, heavy with those expectancies again. Romance is an ideal created in the 40's and 50's that men and woman play a role to one another. Its fucked up and unrealistic in the real scheme of things. Sure it's nice to be all lovely and affectionate, but that kind of thing should come naturally between two people that care about one another. Never expected.
I dunno. its my view on things. I hate when people expect me to act a certain way because of a label or the way I look. if you find someone you're happy with, be with them. See if for how it is, not how you want it to be, and things will be fine. Never expect, it'll only lead to dissapointment.

 

[Matt aka Sparks]

Meh, I don't belive that humans are supposed to find a life mate. We are genetecly wired to procreate with many diffrent partners over the course of a life time.

 

[Onemanbandit]

Polyamoury is perfect in concept but only if you can control your emotions, I've had several would-be polyamourous relationships end really fucked up, jealousy and blame and feelings of insignificance pretty much lame. I believe absolute honesty is the only way to have a relationship, fuck mixed messages and fuck letting things be just becasue you don't want a conflict when you KNOW it's not working. Being able to be comfortable and happy alone is much more important than force fitting yourself into anything you can find just to satisfy feelings of loneliness or a need for sex.

 

[wartomods]

fuck polyamory. If you want to fuck with several people do it. But i think polyamory is emotionally unstable, and even if you manage it, it is not as rewarding has having a soulmate.

 

[Onemanbandit]

Emotionally stable "soulmate" relationships are pretty rare, naturally there isn't really any other animal anywhere close to what we are that practices monogamy. I guess it's all a question of happiness and comfort zones

 

[Ouija]

Up until about a year ago i was in a one woman relationship for about 9 yrs, various women at diff times but a one on one intimacy nonetheless. I can honestly look back on these times and say they were better than they were not, and when they got bad i turned to drugs... fxck, lots of drugs... eh they were so good that i find myself thinking about drugs and women at this very moment. Point is life isn't fair, but its good. I believe this goes the same for anything you do, so do it well.

 

[LeeevinKansas]

honestly, go single. all the trouble ive been putting up with now for 4 months bc of this city girl, i wouldnt have had to deal with if i never had initiated the relationship.

to any1 that wants someone in their life, trust the ones that have already been there, 90% of the time all that awaits ya is heartache like some one else said. wether you stay together for 1 day or 2 years, it dont matter. You will more than likely break up. I cant tell you how many times ive watched relationships that people swore up and down theyd stay in, just to watch them fall apart down the road, even if it took them years to do it, or only weeks.

Id rather have the complete freedom I get when Im by myself, then have someone attempt to force me to give up who I am, and change who I am, for them. Because cityfolk will NEVER UNDERSTAND WHY PEOPLE LIKE US (STP, hobos, hitchers, etc) DO WHAT WE DO. It doesnt matter how you try to tell them, what viewpoint you tell them it, or how many times you try, or who tells them, they WILL NOT UNDERSTAND.

the last time my girl said she understood, and started to come around to my side of view about the modern world, the next day when I attempted to bring the subject up again, she opted out to scream at me about how Im running from responsibilities.

so to the op and any other ppl in the same boat lookin for a partner, im telling you, STAY AWAY. GO BACK. BEWARE. it aint worth it.

if you were all n"normal ppl" who didnt believe in doing what you do, trains, hitchin, etc, then itd be a diff story, look all you want. but for the majority of us, we have this shit called WANDERLUST. AND IT DONT GO AWAY. EVAR. comes up and haunts you all the time. I cant even go outside without hearing the sounds of a semi slowing down in the distance, or the trains just down the street by my house, and wanting to hit the road already.

Id rather be able to leave wenever I want to, and go do whatever I want to, peacefully, vs then having to pick and choose between THAT SPECIAL SOMEONE and YOUR GOD DAMN LIFE/LIFESTYLE.

 

[Onemanbandit]

"if you were all n"normal ppl" who didnt believe in doing what you do, trains, hitchin, etc, then itd be a diff story, look all you want. but for the majority of us, we have this shit called WANDERLUST. AND IT DONT GO AWAY. EVAR. comes up and haunts you all the time. I cant even go outside without hearing the sounds of a semi slowing down in the distance, or the trains just down the street by my house, and wanting to hit the road already."

I know what you're saying, sometimes it feels like you have to be alone to be able to have your freedom, and it's true, most people aren't going to understand. If they don't, I'm not going ot try to make them and if someone is trying to change me to be in a relationship with me, what the fuck am I doing there anyways? I wouldn't have a relationship with someone unless I knew I could tell them honestly that sure I care about them but I have to hit the road again. Maybe they'd go with you, maybe you don't want them to, whatever the answer is if they don't understand then you probably shouldn't have been with them in the first place.

 

[shwillyhaaa]

in the end, your best friend will always be yourself. tho theres nothing wrong with hanging out with someone whos really cool for a bit.. marriage, bleh.

 

[Wolf]

You guys are way to afraid of heartache. Don't approach love in a business sense, even if in a relationship, just appreciate what it is, while it is. If you get hurt, you get hurt, but if your getting hurt more then your being loved, there was no love going on in the first place, and that was the mistake not the relationship itself.

While I am not looking for, or even care about finding, a relationship, I am not going to shut myself off from it. How is that any less of a 'ball and chain' situation? You're still cutting yourself off from living life to it's fullest, the same way you would if you where in a relationship with someone who was holding you back. If you are with someone, in that way, and you don't feel free, then that person doesn't work for you.

Let me ask you a question, if you have had a friend die, do you regret ever being friends with them?

And, nobody dies alone. There are too many people, and most of us are loved deeply by someone.

 

[vagabond719r]

I've never struck to much of attention with chicks. Plus, back when I traveled women on the road were more scarce than now, and if you ran into one they were already with someone. I've gone most of my life practically as a monk, but have had the occasional girlfriend. None of which worked out as I am nice and single now. I don't lose that romanticism or faith that one day fate will put me in the right place at the right time. If not, I'll just make sweet love to a bowl of Chronic which has never let me down and like chocolate makes me feel the same. Polyamoury seems to be big with this emo crowd. I know a few who are big into it, but every time one or the other have emotions which are all too human, not some gender bending shit. It just happens. Love is by far the strongest, least controllable emotion in us, and we think we can love solely, two or more people. In a porn prevailent culture, in the 21st century, polyamoury is a nice way of saying that someone wants to be gangbanged till they get AIDS and die.Pessimism at it's finest. This ain't the 60's anymore. Free love died in 1981. It's just not safe, or clean, anymore, especially among crusties. Come on, you know it's the truth. Someone might look clean, and say they're clean, but when those lesions on your chest and a persistent cough, you might find out otherwise. Sorry to go from love to AIDS, but.....

 

[Deleted member 2626]

Right on brother. If it happens to find me fine but if not I'm a keep on rambling. . Easy To catch shit from ransoms