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AlwaysLost
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I am here today to rant and dispel this stupid movement going around called clothing does not equal consent. Its just some bullshit for women to rationalize dressing however they want without consequences (the non rapey kind). Grow up and take responsibility for your choices. People are going to judge you by your appearance. THIS is a something everyone (male or female) on this site has experienced.
Okay now that I have come across as a total misogynist, now let me dial it down a notch and make my argument. And my disclaimer. No woman should ever be forced to do anything they don't want to ever, period.
Now my rational. You do not get raped (man or girl) based on how you are dressed. You get raped because 1) you have made poor choices or 2) through no fault of your own, you have now come across the path of a rapist. Either way, this is not your fault. Just as its not the fault of a murder victim getting shot or the guy who leaves his car unlocked and has it hijacked. You are an innocent victim.
Being a rapist is the same as being a serial killer. You either are one or you are not. I have had a lot of female friends over the years. I have always just jibed better with females than men. Whether through drunkenness or skinny dipping etc I have seen several of my girl friends (not girlfriends) in various states of undress. I have never felt the need to rape any of them. We'd go clubbing and they would dress "slutty" I would drive them to and fro. Not once did I rape them because they were dressed to party. Even when they were naked, I was probably like 'holy crap shes hot'. But I have never felt "rapey" not even once in my life.
Even when a man gets his most desperate he will not rape a girl. He will go to the seediest strip club in town or hit craigslist for a "date" thats just reality.
A rapist however rapes...sometimes alcohol helps sometimes not. Date rape is still rape. But the guy (or girl) that raped you did so because he has the rape gene. Alcohol or drugs may have unleashed it in him just as some people would never kill anyone while sober but add a little bit of meth added to equation and bamn murder-gene unlocked.
If I see a girl with slut written across her short shorts or a rich girl in a see-through $1000 dress you better believe im gonna imagine doing all kinds of nasty stuff to her and she will probably be in my mind when I fap later that day.
But even if (never happen) that girl was naked in front of me. I aint touching her unless she says yes and is not intoxicated. The first time I do it with a girl we both have to be sober (unless we'd already made the decision to do it before drinking)...I've fooled around while drunk but I refuse to commit a sexual act while intoxicated because that is what gentlemen do.
And it has saved me from a lot of drama through the years. I have even had girls thank me later. Not that they had to. I valued their friendship too much and once you have sex with a girl, there is no going back to the friendzone. I know Karen wouldn't have been mad had we did it. But we probably wouldn't be still friends and I need that girl in my life.
However if you dress like a "slut" you don't get special privileges by creating a bs movement any more than I wont get my ass kicked if I dress like an idiot downtown. Or get arrested looking bummy in a rich neighborhood.
People treat you how they perceive you. That is reality. It doesn't make it right. But its true. Even homeless people treat you differently when you dress like a rich man. .
I was dressed to the nines this morning. I saw my home-bum buddy sitting at the bus stop. He thought I was a yuppy until he recognized me as a "redneck" as he called me. We had a good laugh when I explained why I dress the way he does (urban camo). I gave him and his buddy 5$ for a beer (this guy helped me when I had nothing). He treated me normally but his buddy treated me like some sort of benevolent business man (way too polite). I didnt have time to explain to him that IM only one paycheck away from hanging out with them lol...but my buddy did I am sure.
But my point of this rant is Ladies, Dress however you want. I know there's plenty of times that its totally cool to dress to party (and believe me I appreciate it). But make smart choices (follow basic self-defense and self-awareness) so hopefully Godwilling you never cross the path of a rapist. Sometimes theres nothing you can do. But be as safe as you possibly can! I wish we lived in a world where rape didn't exist but that's just not how it is.
Okay lets open this up for safe, respectful discussion. Everyone be gentleman.
Okay now that I have come across as a total misogynist, now let me dial it down a notch and make my argument. And my disclaimer. No woman should ever be forced to do anything they don't want to ever, period.
Now my rational. You do not get raped (man or girl) based on how you are dressed. You get raped because 1) you have made poor choices or 2) through no fault of your own, you have now come across the path of a rapist. Either way, this is not your fault. Just as its not the fault of a murder victim getting shot or the guy who leaves his car unlocked and has it hijacked. You are an innocent victim.
Being a rapist is the same as being a serial killer. You either are one or you are not. I have had a lot of female friends over the years. I have always just jibed better with females than men. Whether through drunkenness or skinny dipping etc I have seen several of my girl friends (not girlfriends) in various states of undress. I have never felt the need to rape any of them. We'd go clubbing and they would dress "slutty" I would drive them to and fro. Not once did I rape them because they were dressed to party. Even when they were naked, I was probably like 'holy crap shes hot'. But I have never felt "rapey" not even once in my life.
Even when a man gets his most desperate he will not rape a girl. He will go to the seediest strip club in town or hit craigslist for a "date" thats just reality.
A rapist however rapes...sometimes alcohol helps sometimes not. Date rape is still rape. But the guy (or girl) that raped you did so because he has the rape gene. Alcohol or drugs may have unleashed it in him just as some people would never kill anyone while sober but add a little bit of meth added to equation and bamn murder-gene unlocked.
If I see a girl with slut written across her short shorts or a rich girl in a see-through $1000 dress you better believe im gonna imagine doing all kinds of nasty stuff to her and she will probably be in my mind when I fap later that day.
But even if (never happen) that girl was naked in front of me. I aint touching her unless she says yes and is not intoxicated. The first time I do it with a girl we both have to be sober (unless we'd already made the decision to do it before drinking)...I've fooled around while drunk but I refuse to commit a sexual act while intoxicated because that is what gentlemen do.
And it has saved me from a lot of drama through the years. I have even had girls thank me later. Not that they had to. I valued their friendship too much and once you have sex with a girl, there is no going back to the friendzone. I know Karen wouldn't have been mad had we did it. But we probably wouldn't be still friends and I need that girl in my life.
However if you dress like a "slut" you don't get special privileges by creating a bs movement any more than I wont get my ass kicked if I dress like an idiot downtown. Or get arrested looking bummy in a rich neighborhood.
People treat you how they perceive you. That is reality. It doesn't make it right. But its true. Even homeless people treat you differently when you dress like a rich man. .
I was dressed to the nines this morning. I saw my home-bum buddy sitting at the bus stop. He thought I was a yuppy until he recognized me as a "redneck" as he called me. We had a good laugh when I explained why I dress the way he does (urban camo). I gave him and his buddy 5$ for a beer (this guy helped me when I had nothing). He treated me normally but his buddy treated me like some sort of benevolent business man (way too polite). I didnt have time to explain to him that IM only one paycheck away from hanging out with them lol...but my buddy did I am sure.
But my point of this rant is Ladies, Dress however you want. I know there's plenty of times that its totally cool to dress to party (and believe me I appreciate it). But make smart choices (follow basic self-defense and self-awareness) so hopefully Godwilling you never cross the path of a rapist. Sometimes theres nothing you can do. But be as safe as you possibly can! I wish we lived in a world where rape didn't exist but that's just not how it is.
Okay lets open this up for safe, respectful discussion. Everyone be gentleman.