Translation - if I sympathize with her maybe I can have sex with her
Translation: if I mow over her self expression with sarcastically expressed factoids, I can undermine her entitlement to express herself and use her anger to guilt her into another unwanted sexual encountera million years of trying to propagate the genome have caused males to want to have sex. shocker, I know.
You know what else has a rape vibe? Rain.
It's like come on rain I don't want to get wet. But it just persists.
but if I'm nice to her it's only because I want sex too.
when you think about it that's really the most creepy way to go about it......*ahem* kimchee
Was starting to wonder when that would happen
by "this" you mean basic truth for all living things in the universe?
*I am editing this because I'm pretty sure people have gotten the wrong idea about what I have posted. All the examples in this post are separate things. This did not all happen at one time. I'm just fed up with everything. This post was inspired by a particularily big asshole last night. This is more of a rant than anything else. Sorry if it seemed misleading* For the past 3 months I've been traveling, for the most part, on my own because I was getting tired of road dogs., As a female I am constantly bombarded with confessions of love, crude comments and actions, and rape attempts. It's sad I have to expect this kind of treatment if I don't have someone to "protect" me. I even have to accept that's just how it's gonna be. I'm getting tired. So tired. I feel like I don't even have the energy to tell people to fuck off anymore. I mean half the guys out here don't even get the hint when you punch them in the face and split their lip open. I shouldn't have to fight people so they don't touch me. I want to be able to go into a city and meet new friends and have fun. Is that really too hard? Is it too much to ask for? I like traveling on my own, I don't want to be practically forced to have a road dog just to avoid this treatment. I love this culture we live in, but it's so hard sometimes. I'm sorry if this wasn't a great post. I just needed some place to put my thoughts.
Oh dear... Maci, I hope you know you're my favorite new friend.
It's not fair that we live in a world as fucked up as it is where people have to be on constant guard. You're right, you should be able to travel alone without being constantly harassed. You shouldn't have to be afraid of drinking for fear of rape. You shouldn't have to feel objectified or that your boundaries are being ignored.
One thing I'll never understand is how someone (i.e. men) can feel that they are entitled to touching another person (i.e. women). I like to think that we as a community have our heads on straight but there will always be scumbags I suppose. The amount of freedom travelers have can get to peoples heads, it's easy for asshole to continue their behavior when there isn't any accountability.
The only way to deal with people like that I found is to dis-empower them. Unfortunately there's no guide book on how to do that and instead you have to take it case by case. However it can be done. It's tiring, and honestly most of the time it seems fruitless. But don't give up just yet. Don't stop making your boundaries known, don't stop punching grabby assholes. Most of all, stick up for any person you see in a vulnerable position. Lift up other victims and you'll find they'll lift you up too. We're in this shitty world together after all.
I will always have your back.
a million years of trying to propagate the genome have caused males to want to have sex. shocker, I know.