EphemeralStick
Andie of the House of Queer
Well there has certainly been a lot that has been shared at this point. I think now would be as good a time as any to revisit the actual topic of this thread before it goes and gets hijacked again.
Clearly this issue is a complicated one that can't just be simply explained away. Sexual Harassment towards women exists, heavily in this community. We here who put the time in to moderate the site have seen it time and time again. I see out there in the world on a damn near daily basis. To say that it doesn't exist or that it is a product of the female's own promiscuity is to live in denial.
However, at the same time, we can't just instantly dismiss anyone who feels that way. It's easy to get aggro and start slinging insults but that is not productive. All that does is create more victims of another type of hostility. A lot of us do what we do because we feel attacked. By society, by life, all of it. How do any of us respond to attack? We fight back. With a situation like this you have to keep in mind what I said in my first post.
Every situation must be assessed on a case by case basis. It's exhausting and I get it, sometimes it's easier to summarize the offender as an asshole because who the fuck wants to deal with this every day? However it still needs to be done. In some instances a direct approach is necessary because these individuals are truly in the wrong, hence the banning of @ped . While other times, it is important to hear out the words of someone and help them to learn something new because they may actually have reasons for feeling how they do, i.e. @Lightning Samurai .
It's sad. There has been a severe decline in the amount of active female users. It's not difficult to see why. Why be a part of something when they have to deal with constant bombardment from asshole guys? And for the love of gods, I know that not every man is like this. The point is is that some men are, and these are the guys that need to be called out.
We all have to do what we can to fix this problem. It won't go away by simply ignoring it, and shouting it away doesn't work either. There is no one answer but a collection of different ways to go about figuring it out.
Don't discredit others' experiences, don't blame a victim's actions for someone else taking advantage of them, don't stop trying to improve the person you are.
And I said it before, I'll say it again, and I'll probably be saying it until the end of time.
Stop. Objectifying. Women.
Clearly this issue is a complicated one that can't just be simply explained away. Sexual Harassment towards women exists, heavily in this community. We here who put the time in to moderate the site have seen it time and time again. I see out there in the world on a damn near daily basis. To say that it doesn't exist or that it is a product of the female's own promiscuity is to live in denial.
However, at the same time, we can't just instantly dismiss anyone who feels that way. It's easy to get aggro and start slinging insults but that is not productive. All that does is create more victims of another type of hostility. A lot of us do what we do because we feel attacked. By society, by life, all of it. How do any of us respond to attack? We fight back. With a situation like this you have to keep in mind what I said in my first post.
Every situation must be assessed on a case by case basis. It's exhausting and I get it, sometimes it's easier to summarize the offender as an asshole because who the fuck wants to deal with this every day? However it still needs to be done. In some instances a direct approach is necessary because these individuals are truly in the wrong, hence the banning of @ped . While other times, it is important to hear out the words of someone and help them to learn something new because they may actually have reasons for feeling how they do, i.e. @Lightning Samurai .
It's sad. There has been a severe decline in the amount of active female users. It's not difficult to see why. Why be a part of something when they have to deal with constant bombardment from asshole guys? And for the love of gods, I know that not every man is like this. The point is is that some men are, and these are the guys that need to be called out.
We all have to do what we can to fix this problem. It won't go away by simply ignoring it, and shouting it away doesn't work either. There is no one answer but a collection of different ways to go about figuring it out.
Don't discredit others' experiences, don't blame a victim's actions for someone else taking advantage of them, don't stop trying to improve the person you are.
And I said it before, I'll say it again, and I'll probably be saying it until the end of time.
Stop. Objectifying. Women.
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