What classifies someone as a "slut"? (1 Viewer)

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Someone that will fuck anyone and anything. Weather or not that's a bad thing though is in the eye of the beholder.
 
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You can define a slut easily, but you need to define bitch to better understand the similarity and difference of the two. A slut will sleep with anybody, a bitch will sleep with anyone but you. Got it? Good.
 

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as far as I'm concerned, if the word is going to be used it should be used towards someone who makes bad, unhealthy choices relating to their sex life. i.e using sex as a tool to gain something, using sex as a weapon to hurt others, generally not making smart decisions relating to sex I guess? It's certainly not gender limited and the common definition of "a girl who has a lot of sex" is bullshit and unfair. Basically, a slut is anyone who has sex for the wrong reasons.
 

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okay so ive come across this conversation before in person many times. Yes, ive been called a slut before, but the question is why are people who have sex have the right to call other who have sex a "slut." What makes them not a slut? Yes, ive lost count of the men and women ive been with and yes, i get laid more often than others, but I think when you become a slut is when youve lost the feel for it, when you no longer do it for yourself but when you do it for others or the other person and lose interest in it. when you no longer have a good time with sex. And no not just once, but every time. You start turning into your own sex organ and thats all you portray yourself as. Thats what a slut is: a sex machine.
 

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as far as I'm concerned, if the word is going to be used it should be used towards someone who makes bad, unhealthy choices relating to their sex life. i.e using sex as a tool to gain something, using sex as a weapon to hurt others, generally not making smart decisions relating to sex I guess? It's certainly not gender limited and the common definition of "a girl who has a lot of sex" is bullshit and unfair. Basically, a slut is anyone who has sex for the wrong reasons.


I haven't thought of it like this before - I think this is a definition that's heading in the right direction.

I think, as anarchists (generally speaking), we should reject power inequality and control at any level. When sex is used consciously as a tool to disempower another person or control them in some way, I think this tends towards wrongness.

But, we also have to respect people and their decisions. So, really, it's the rationale behind the decision, rather than the decision to fuck itself, that we should be critical of.
 

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I disagree. You can't know the whole of someone's rational and it really isn't your business anyway. Basically....it isn't yours to be critical.
 

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I disagree. You can't know the whole of someone's rational and it really isn't your business anyway. Basically....it isn't yours to be critical.

Yeah, I think I'm actually in this camp too. Deciding that somebody else's reasons for fucking are the "wrong reasons" or even the right reasons is almost as bad as deciding that they have fucked too many or not enough people (the whole problatic slut/prude or madonna/whore dichotomy) . You're still sitting in moral judgment of another human and like, ultimately, who the fyck are you? Like, why do you have the right, you know? You don't.

I (somewhat) jokingly self identify as a slut. I also casually sprinkle the word cunt into my conversations. I think if we find the humor in the words and also make them something casual and demystified then we can maybe eliminate some of their power to damage people. And although that doesn't totally solve the problem I do think it helps.

Also, sluttiness, like most things, is relative.
 

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if you think you have issues with this topic you may want to consider reading the book the ethical slut.
 

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being a slut leads to vd, self esteem confusion, broken homes, man hate, children with no sense of stability or belonging, girls from broken homos who see sex as a way to get father/male attention, boys who womanize because that is the only role modeled by their absent father, and the cycle perpetuates. All in the name of freedom.
 

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being a slut leads to vd, self esteem confusion, broken homes, man hate, children with no sense of stability or belonging, girls from broken homos who see sex as a way to get father/male attention, boys who womanize because that is the only role modeled by their absent father, and the cycle perpetuates. All in the name of freedom.

i don't think your assessment is entirely accurate. also, i'm hoping you meant 'homes' and not 'homos'.
 

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I know of someone who uses slut as a term of endearment because of how willing his girl is to do kinky stuff (and I mean questionably kinky). He uses the word whore in the bad sense, because they lose track of the intimate part of sex due to the money exchange. Or so he says. I was part of escort system for a little bit and I thought that it wasn't half bad. Half bad being the descriptor.
 

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What makes someone a slut is others labeling them a slut, it's just a label others put on people who have sex with those they feel like having sex with.
It's not really something to get caught up in, same with labeling others.
It's just another term used in social context to put restrictions on the freedoms of others, don't let that senseless nonsense get to you. It's all so meaningless.
 

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Anyone who loves sex and will accept almost any offer (gotta have some decent standards) and have the desire to nearly any time any day is probably considered to be many different derogatory terms. I say God bless them all and that we need people like that in the world.
 

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You can define a slut easily, but you need to define bitch to better understand the similarity and difference of the two. A slut will sleep with anybody, a bitch will sleep with anyone but you. Got it? Good.

 
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