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Since @Matt Derrick has graciously included a Relationship section on StP, I'll add some random thoughts:
(This is also inspired by the recent thread of the Great Suicide Rider himself, @Coywolf )
Personally, I have struggled with certain problematic elements prevalent in, particularly, online interactions between Queer men, et al. (MSM, etc.) There is, famously, a reductionist quality to much of the dating dynamic in our milieu; and I think it's self-evident that dating apps are, if not a sufficient cause, then, at least, an efficacious concomitant of this experience. My own approach to forming connections with people (of all genders) has always taken the route of building affinity through conversation, the exchange of ideas; what could be called a sapiosexual praxis...However, on certain platforms, a type of, let's say, "fuck now, talk later" tendency prevails. I want to hasten to add that this is not a criticism of casual sex or even a "fuck now, skip talking altogether" approach if that's what two ( or more) people desire. Having been active in Polyamory circles (and polycules) for years, I have seen many styles and configurations work (and, yes, seen many go down in flames). I only, of course, wish to convey my own philosophical approach. I'm becoming convinced that dating apps (or online interaction, generally?) is not terribly conducive to a more personalist road to connection. Any analysis or feedback is very welcome...
-Bey
(This is also inspired by the recent thread of the Great Suicide Rider himself, @Coywolf )
Personally, I have struggled with certain problematic elements prevalent in, particularly, online interactions between Queer men, et al. (MSM, etc.) There is, famously, a reductionist quality to much of the dating dynamic in our milieu; and I think it's self-evident that dating apps are, if not a sufficient cause, then, at least, an efficacious concomitant of this experience. My own approach to forming connections with people (of all genders) has always taken the route of building affinity through conversation, the exchange of ideas; what could be called a sapiosexual praxis...However, on certain platforms, a type of, let's say, "fuck now, talk later" tendency prevails. I want to hasten to add that this is not a criticism of casual sex or even a "fuck now, skip talking altogether" approach if that's what two ( or more) people desire. Having been active in Polyamory circles (and polycules) for years, I have seen many styles and configurations work (and, yes, seen many go down in flames). I only, of course, wish to convey my own philosophical approach. I'm becoming convinced that dating apps (or online interaction, generally?) is not terribly conducive to a more personalist road to connection. Any analysis or feedback is very welcome...
-Bey