i suppose im the friend yer refering to here, the fact that you understand that you dont see the "many private stupid conversations" should indicated that in no way do i go straight to telling someone to fuck off, and neither does matt (not that i have to speak for him). after explaining something 10 times to somebody, then yea, the fuck off comes out.
apparently it does need to be pointed out that you can go elsewhere if you disagree if all you do is disagree. if you dont like the way things are run here why would you stick around? to keep hanging out in chat? to keep posting that you LOL love how people who dont listen to basic things are treated?
and being defensive or antagonistic? i wouldnt call it that, ide call it getting tired of answering the same questions time and time again only to be hit with another group of people every week who want to "gimme gimme" everything they can from the website then complain when they feel slighted.
that's kinda what im here for, reading about answers to problems that I could possibly have.
if yer problem is something like "can you delete my account because i posted a thread that i think is risque when in reality its nothing of the sort? and if you dont im going to post a private email between you and me to try to make you look like the bad guy" then the answer is no. so thats a positive i guess that that question was answered.