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I am a radical & I am a parent. I am in a long term life partnership that is most easiest described as a marriage. We do not believe in another giving us legal permission to describe and prove our 15+ year relationship. Since we oppose structures of power, are tax resistors, nor religious; the idea has never even been considered. So we identify as married to fit in their boxes. We are a nuclear family of a mostly hetero far leftist couple. We homeschool/unschooled. Our teen child is an openly trans gay male (AFAB) and a childhood Stage 4 cancer survivor. In our personal & collective oppositions to capitalism, consumerism & opposition of traditional childhood to worker trajectory we do things a bit different. What is becoming more & more prevalent lately is being routinely and subversively challenged to our theory & practice. The most interesting dynamic is developing while interacting with predominantly millennial & occasionally queer friends/families, in alternative communities & with health "professionals" in gender management programs.
For the first time our lifestyle, politics & decision making are being challenged. Here is the scary part, we are not being challenged by any quote on quote traditional types. I could expect the wage slaves, amurican dream capitalists, benighted drones or from educational, social service bureaucrats and or from religious zealots; aka the norms of institutional patriarchy. Since there are established protocols for participating in transitional hormone therapy & future surgeries, the hospital staff & insurance require things like mental health counseling & Psych services. Now we are not Scientologists or anything but are skeptical about trying to place everyone into psychological boxes. Everyone is not suffering from underlying mental illness because we are all different. We are simply, human. We make mistakes & hopefully we learn from them.
What we notice is that others are challenging our internal family dynamic & power structure some. Our individual & or collective anarchist thought & practice is also being challenged from some who should be allies. With the emergence of feminism movements into the mainstream; there see to be misogyny & patriarchy witch hunts occurring. These new ideas of all masculinity being toxic, family gender & parental roles are being examined externally and superficially by casual spectators. It seems that the capitalists have won another round in their quest to control markets & labor. Current mainstream thoughts suggests & promotes all women needing to be in the workforce. Something that once was radical requiring solidarity & activism for equality has created even more infighting and classism in radical society. I see this as just another ploy for the privileged/elite class to squander our energy fighting allies instead of exposing the master architects.
Now I recognize that I am male, masculine & could appear to be authoritarian to some. Perhaps I can even be culpable of some or all of those things sometimes. Perhaps my shadow lurks ominously over my wife as we navigate life together. I am also an activist, advocate & protector of our clan while in solidarity of others struggles from oppression. Here & who is where we are starting to hear & see recurring opinionated themes. I must say that many millennial centric groups & individuals are super sensitive & lacking many experiences as to the complexities & contradictions that exist in middle age family life. Who would have thought that some fringe minority members from LGBTQ demographics would condemn & admonish "breeder" parents whom may appear outwardly heterosexual & potentially patriarchal. With family & group dynamics always being complex & dynamic, a outside looking in surface assessment can be misleading. With historic experience the basis of many subjective & presumed realities, a narrative is often created. Please lets not spin hypothetical or exaggerated narratives to bash our comrades. Lets not allow the privileges/elite class to always try to polarize us.
While i think of myself as an authority on much of how I live my intentional version of anarchist/socialist/activist life; I do not impose power & control over others intentionally. In a system where rank, class & wages prevail it is hard enough for me to fight the oppressive & bureaucratic systems that are so entrenched in capitalism. Lets not waste our energy constantly seeking out conflict with those who should be our allies & comrades. This class war should not be us versus us (oppressed) it should be us versus they as in them (elite). Do not simply assume that our child is of an oppressed class for having herto/trad parents. I do not seek to dismantle, compete or defend fellow working class & marginalized groups. Just because some 25 year old (general ageist statement but keep in mind that I once was age 25 too), he/she/they gets a degree and has found a place in their workforce or has some apprentice level understanding of their brave new world based on their personal & professional experiences; please do not disregard the rest of us. Some of us our journeymen with decades of practice, living & fighting for justice & equality through intentional living, direct action, nonviolence, civil disobedience some too while living in intentional poverty away from capitalism & consumerism. To live with intention & conviction while raising, teaching & protecting a child, family or group is difficult. Such personal responsibilities for protecting a child is a human tradition, regardless of gender roles.
I believe that capitalism is the greatest evil known to man! I think it to be so pervasive while it almost invisibly creates the exploitative & adversarial systems of control. Such systems encourage us not know who the enemy is; it encourages us wasting our energy & resources fighting each other. Chattel slavery with the masses not knowing how enslaved they are? Misdirection pervades our global society & economies creating philosophical & political differences that encourage competition while stifling cooperation/mutual aid. If you are queer, I am not your enemy. If you are straight I am not automatically your ally! I am an enemy to the empirical hegemony and patriarchy. This also means that I can be at war with my own personal involvement & continuation of inherited or chosen behaviors. I do not want others to judge me & evaluate my preexisting family unit down to an academic theory. Get to know me, walk a mile in our shoes. Sure we are radical, we are different to some but we are not inherently bad for this. Go after the hierarchical patriarchs who actually wield power & control; do not think of us as the enemy.
While many would agree that the majority of the emerging millennial generation is overly sensitive & narcissistic they are also more & more radical, just like us. This is a good byproduct towards revolutionary anarchist practice. All millennial's are not pro or anti LBGTQ & obviously all LBGTQ people are not restricted to any ages or generational groups. If you are LBGTQ or a millennial this is not an attack. I am not automatically talking about you & assume that you oppose my beliefs, traits & lifestyle practices. I also do not speak for any or all anarchists besides myself. This is more of a personal comparison sliver between our generations & communities; both past & present. Its also an invitation if you think we are enemies or opposed. We should be allies!
For the first time our lifestyle, politics & decision making are being challenged. Here is the scary part, we are not being challenged by any quote on quote traditional types. I could expect the wage slaves, amurican dream capitalists, benighted drones or from educational, social service bureaucrats and or from religious zealots; aka the norms of institutional patriarchy. Since there are established protocols for participating in transitional hormone therapy & future surgeries, the hospital staff & insurance require things like mental health counseling & Psych services. Now we are not Scientologists or anything but are skeptical about trying to place everyone into psychological boxes. Everyone is not suffering from underlying mental illness because we are all different. We are simply, human. We make mistakes & hopefully we learn from them.
What we notice is that others are challenging our internal family dynamic & power structure some. Our individual & or collective anarchist thought & practice is also being challenged from some who should be allies. With the emergence of feminism movements into the mainstream; there see to be misogyny & patriarchy witch hunts occurring. These new ideas of all masculinity being toxic, family gender & parental roles are being examined externally and superficially by casual spectators. It seems that the capitalists have won another round in their quest to control markets & labor. Current mainstream thoughts suggests & promotes all women needing to be in the workforce. Something that once was radical requiring solidarity & activism for equality has created even more infighting and classism in radical society. I see this as just another ploy for the privileged/elite class to squander our energy fighting allies instead of exposing the master architects.
Now I recognize that I am male, masculine & could appear to be authoritarian to some. Perhaps I can even be culpable of some or all of those things sometimes. Perhaps my shadow lurks ominously over my wife as we navigate life together. I am also an activist, advocate & protector of our clan while in solidarity of others struggles from oppression. Here & who is where we are starting to hear & see recurring opinionated themes. I must say that many millennial centric groups & individuals are super sensitive & lacking many experiences as to the complexities & contradictions that exist in middle age family life. Who would have thought that some fringe minority members from LGBTQ demographics would condemn & admonish "breeder" parents whom may appear outwardly heterosexual & potentially patriarchal. With family & group dynamics always being complex & dynamic, a outside looking in surface assessment can be misleading. With historic experience the basis of many subjective & presumed realities, a narrative is often created. Please lets not spin hypothetical or exaggerated narratives to bash our comrades. Lets not allow the privileges/elite class to always try to polarize us.
While i think of myself as an authority on much of how I live my intentional version of anarchist/socialist/activist life; I do not impose power & control over others intentionally. In a system where rank, class & wages prevail it is hard enough for me to fight the oppressive & bureaucratic systems that are so entrenched in capitalism. Lets not waste our energy constantly seeking out conflict with those who should be our allies & comrades. This class war should not be us versus us (oppressed) it should be us versus they as in them (elite). Do not simply assume that our child is of an oppressed class for having herto/trad parents. I do not seek to dismantle, compete or defend fellow working class & marginalized groups. Just because some 25 year old (general ageist statement but keep in mind that I once was age 25 too), he/she/they gets a degree and has found a place in their workforce or has some apprentice level understanding of their brave new world based on their personal & professional experiences; please do not disregard the rest of us. Some of us our journeymen with decades of practice, living & fighting for justice & equality through intentional living, direct action, nonviolence, civil disobedience some too while living in intentional poverty away from capitalism & consumerism. To live with intention & conviction while raising, teaching & protecting a child, family or group is difficult. Such personal responsibilities for protecting a child is a human tradition, regardless of gender roles.
I believe that capitalism is the greatest evil known to man! I think it to be so pervasive while it almost invisibly creates the exploitative & adversarial systems of control. Such systems encourage us not know who the enemy is; it encourages us wasting our energy & resources fighting each other. Chattel slavery with the masses not knowing how enslaved they are? Misdirection pervades our global society & economies creating philosophical & political differences that encourage competition while stifling cooperation/mutual aid. If you are queer, I am not your enemy. If you are straight I am not automatically your ally! I am an enemy to the empirical hegemony and patriarchy. This also means that I can be at war with my own personal involvement & continuation of inherited or chosen behaviors. I do not want others to judge me & evaluate my preexisting family unit down to an academic theory. Get to know me, walk a mile in our shoes. Sure we are radical, we are different to some but we are not inherently bad for this. Go after the hierarchical patriarchs who actually wield power & control; do not think of us as the enemy.
While many would agree that the majority of the emerging millennial generation is overly sensitive & narcissistic they are also more & more radical, just like us. This is a good byproduct towards revolutionary anarchist practice. All millennial's are not pro or anti LBGTQ & obviously all LBGTQ people are not restricted to any ages or generational groups. If you are LBGTQ or a millennial this is not an attack. I am not automatically talking about you & assume that you oppose my beliefs, traits & lifestyle practices. I also do not speak for any or all anarchists besides myself. This is more of a personal comparison sliver between our generations & communities; both past & present. Its also an invitation if you think we are enemies or opposed. We should be allies!
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