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So Ive found that there is an extremely important conversation that we need to have with our wonderful community.
Before I begin with this discussion, I want to point out a few disclaimers:
1.) I am a cis-male, and I can only speak from my own personal experience with road dogs and opinions ive heard from female-bodied or cis/trans-female people ive traveled with or had the pleasure of meeting on the road. As a cis-male, my first and foremost opinion on the subject is that whatever I say has very little standing to anyone who is otherwise and
what they have to say on the subject.
2.) Can we please not make this another dude ran discussion? Lets hear what the female bodied people in our
community and culture have to say? Past this, unless I am directly communicated with by a female bodied individual I will keep my mouth shut (or rather my fingers still.)
Now that we have that out of the way, lets get to the point..
Can we please stop with this sexist double standard against solo female travelers? Yes, I acknowledge that female bodied people are more likely to experience harassment or "cat calling." Yes, I realize that traveling alone is more dangerous at times than traveling in a group or with a road dog. But can we all stop trying to act like female bodied people are not capable of defending themselves? Can we stop telling these people that they should go find a male to defend them? Can we stop perpetuating this idea that females are less capable of learning the ropes on their own? Ive never met ONE female bodied person on the road that agrees with this view. Ive personally never met one female bodied person that has been raped based on being on the road alone, the only people ive met that HAVE been violently assaulted it was either by the male they were travelling with, happened when they were younger and not travelling, or were in a group of asshole
guys that were too drunk to help their road dog. In fact, Ive met many more male bodied travelers that had been violently assaulted whether it be sexual assault, robbery, or because we cis-males seem to not know when to stop talking shit before we get hit. I dont like to perpetuate sexism in either direction but lets face it, female bodied people tend to be a lot better at asserting their danger and escaping potentially dangerous situations. They also have way more experience in fighting off aggressive males.
So, the most important thing i want to say here: Any female bodied green horns or people who plan on travelling keep this in mind; BEING HOMELESS CAN BE DANGEROUS. NO. MATTER. WHAT. You can be as armed and prepared or have the biggest dick in the world and you will still be assessing risks and having to keep yourself safe and healthy. NO matter what gender you identify with or have been assigned, you would be better off finding someone to show you the ropes for the simple fact that the last thing you need to be worrying about is yuppies or people with negative intentions because honestly, if youre smart about it, you will encounter very few of these individuals. Theyd rather go fuck with some helpless yup than
fuck with a hardened punker or houseless folk. DO NOT LET THESE FUCKING DUDES DISCOURAGE YOU FROM DOING WHAT YOU WANT!
Youre biggest threats are exposure, police violence, discrimination against your lifestyle, and natural threats (disease, animals, unprepared camping, ect.) Just because youre female bodied does not mean you need a male to help you, an experienced female traveler might actually be a significantly better choice as they will understand your personal struggle much better than a male traveler.
To every dude in our culture putting these woman down, fuck you. This is not ideology, this is creating a world and culture in which these people who are our EQUALS no longer feel as if they need to depend on men for protection, education, purpose, or financial support. Dont be a sexist. Dont be one of the men who perpetuate this culture where woman are viewd as less capable, or I might just introduce you to one of the many solo female travelers who could easily beat your ass.
JUST STOP ALREADY.
Female Power! Stay strong and travel hard ladies!
Now lets hear their views!
Before I begin with this discussion, I want to point out a few disclaimers:
1.) I am a cis-male, and I can only speak from my own personal experience with road dogs and opinions ive heard from female-bodied or cis/trans-female people ive traveled with or had the pleasure of meeting on the road. As a cis-male, my first and foremost opinion on the subject is that whatever I say has very little standing to anyone who is otherwise and
what they have to say on the subject.
2.) Can we please not make this another dude ran discussion? Lets hear what the female bodied people in our
community and culture have to say? Past this, unless I am directly communicated with by a female bodied individual I will keep my mouth shut (or rather my fingers still.)
Now that we have that out of the way, lets get to the point..
Can we please stop with this sexist double standard against solo female travelers? Yes, I acknowledge that female bodied people are more likely to experience harassment or "cat calling." Yes, I realize that traveling alone is more dangerous at times than traveling in a group or with a road dog. But can we all stop trying to act like female bodied people are not capable of defending themselves? Can we stop telling these people that they should go find a male to defend them? Can we stop perpetuating this idea that females are less capable of learning the ropes on their own? Ive never met ONE female bodied person on the road that agrees with this view. Ive personally never met one female bodied person that has been raped based on being on the road alone, the only people ive met that HAVE been violently assaulted it was either by the male they were travelling with, happened when they were younger and not travelling, or were in a group of asshole
guys that were too drunk to help their road dog. In fact, Ive met many more male bodied travelers that had been violently assaulted whether it be sexual assault, robbery, or because we cis-males seem to not know when to stop talking shit before we get hit. I dont like to perpetuate sexism in either direction but lets face it, female bodied people tend to be a lot better at asserting their danger and escaping potentially dangerous situations. They also have way more experience in fighting off aggressive males.
So, the most important thing i want to say here: Any female bodied green horns or people who plan on travelling keep this in mind; BEING HOMELESS CAN BE DANGEROUS. NO. MATTER. WHAT. You can be as armed and prepared or have the biggest dick in the world and you will still be assessing risks and having to keep yourself safe and healthy. NO matter what gender you identify with or have been assigned, you would be better off finding someone to show you the ropes for the simple fact that the last thing you need to be worrying about is yuppies or people with negative intentions because honestly, if youre smart about it, you will encounter very few of these individuals. Theyd rather go fuck with some helpless yup than
fuck with a hardened punker or houseless folk. DO NOT LET THESE FUCKING DUDES DISCOURAGE YOU FROM DOING WHAT YOU WANT!
Youre biggest threats are exposure, police violence, discrimination against your lifestyle, and natural threats (disease, animals, unprepared camping, ect.) Just because youre female bodied does not mean you need a male to help you, an experienced female traveler might actually be a significantly better choice as they will understand your personal struggle much better than a male traveler.
To every dude in our culture putting these woman down, fuck you. This is not ideology, this is creating a world and culture in which these people who are our EQUALS no longer feel as if they need to depend on men for protection, education, purpose, or financial support. Dont be a sexist. Dont be one of the men who perpetuate this culture where woman are viewd as less capable, or I might just introduce you to one of the many solo female travelers who could easily beat your ass.
JUST STOP ALREADY.
Female Power! Stay strong and travel hard ladies!
Now lets hear their views!
