Wow. I think some people are taking this guy's rant entirely too seriously.
I was jaded for a long time as far as relationships go, because of an extremely bad relationship I was in earlier In life.
Essentially, I was in a relationship with a "girl" for 7 years after I lost my virginity to her. It was my first true love.
She ended up fucking a lot of my friends, including blowing me off at my own birthday party to fuck some random guy. She basically told me she wanted to fuck this guy, so leave.
But she loved me, and I loved her, but she also loved sex, and I just wanted her. I didn't want to fuck other people. She always came back to me and asked for me to take her back, and my dumb ass always did.
The final straw was when she slept with my best friend while I was at work, and when I got back she broke up with me for him. And not soon after she had a kid with him. (This guy is a POS unemployed heroine addict who knows nothing of the word responsibility or has any place raising a child, IMO)
In a fit of rage, and the worst depression I have ever felt, I got blackout drunk and rode my motor cycle at red line in the oncoming lane for 10 miles to my friends house. I wanted to die. Thank god I didnt.
I digress.
What I later came to realize is that I was to blame for at least 50% of what happened to me. I was still a "boy", she wanted a stable "man". She also wanted children, I definitely did not. If I would have "grown up" I could have kept her. Thank god I didnt. I wouldn't have the awesome life I have today.
This jaded me as far as relationships go for a long time. I hurt a few women who genuinely loved me, I think I subconsciously thought I was getting back at my ex by womanizing.
I am EXTREMELY ashamed of myself for hurting those women, they did not deserve that, and I eventually found peace with myself and started to have normal relationships again. I now love my partners unconditionally, some times it can be a weakness.
I love WOMEN. I try not to get involved with many younger girls, as I have learned that most yoUnger girls/women are not ready to have a long term relationship, not all, but many that I have dated.
In a way, I feel that I am still not stable enough to maintain a relationship. I'm houseless most of the time. I hAve no financial stability, no assets, shitty credit, I travel all the time.
But then again, I may be looking in the wrong circles, or being to hard on myself. I know there is someone out there for me. There is someone out there for everyone.
My advice for the OP is: get over it man. You may be looking in the wrong places. Just be yourself and someone will love you for that.
If someone cheats on you. Fuck them, leave 'em. No one deserves that. I hate how some people try to justify cheating. If someone cheats once, they will probably do it again, and it usually means they are looking for something that you currently arent giving, or can't give them. The adult thing to do would just tell the other person they want to sleep with someone else, or break up with them.
As far as the polyamorous people out there, I have already stated in another thread that I'm kinda old fashioned, and probably couldn't be in a polyamorous relationship. Not that it doesn't work for many other people. Being polyamorous and cheating are 2 WAY different things.
And yes. Relationships are not just about sex. Sex is important, but the intellect and humor of another person is MUCH more important imo. Stay classy StP.