Well, speaking from experience - as I am certain even 'graven' will agree with me - it's a very very very bad idea to hook up with somebody romantically who is not fundamentally the same as you. With me, I soon found out that 'graven' wanted to ONLY travel / never have a home, while I am very happily seattled where I've been for almost 20 years / have a good thing going. We made a huge mistake and jumped the broom about a year and a half ago, and while I thought it might work - especially after I hooked her up with a way cool homestead behind this studio/gallery; she immediately felt trapped and subsequently did none of the things she set out to do with it (like dog rescue, gardening, lodging, the whole DIY thing...) except plot on how to leave everything behind, including me. It's not going to work (long distance relationships) especially in todays times. If you love somebody, you gotta set threm free, which is exactly what I did with 'graven' who is now happily somewhere just north of Seattle with her new man. While it broke my heart to see her go, I had no choice but to do so - because I saw how un-happy she was here. In a way, I might have even given her an extra incentive to leave since things between us were terrible towards the end - but I am happy for her, for she is living life the way she wants, with who she wants (at least for now) and as I've always said: you must do what your heart tells you to do. If you sincerely feel your relationship is going to suffer in anyway: End it, for the both of you short term will then have no conflicts and will then benifit in the long run as well since you will both be living YOUR lives the way you want.
