A lot of people want to settle down in general. I'm just basing my statement off the majority of women "I know" wanting the house, white picket fence and a family. The uncreative, boring typical lifestyle most ppl live. Each person is different. We could look at it on a more scientific level, but I'd rather not get into that because everyone is different.
As for what Road Dogg said I say congrats for getting back together, but I would strongly disagree. Depending on someone else is a sign of insecurity. True happiness can be found without human relation. Overcoming fear of loneliness would be a sign of security. If it didn't work the first time usually doesn't anytime after that unless you fix what made it broken in the first place.
I was just about to come back edit my post to say that, yes, most women do want to settle. And most men seem to as well.
So we're on the same page for that.
I also some people living crazy creative lives behind the bars of their picket fenced home. With the security of a roof, I see them creating beautiful wonders and who also fuel the world on love. They're the kind of folks that have taken me in as I've wandered around and I'm grateful to them for it. They're the moms that pick me up off the side of the road in the highlands of Scotland and invite me to stay in their garden shed as they feed me and show me around. They're the Microsoft employees who make sure my thermos is always full of tea.
This wasn't to counter what you said. As you acknowledged, everyone is different.
Overcoming fear of loneliness would be a sign of security.
With this I agree. I've always been cautious to know that I learned that I could live/make it on my own without clinging to another human for security or depend on them for constant positive affirmation and value. Oi. Did that sentence make sense?
Since I was pretty short (junior high short), I chose to go through life solo as to not limit myself. I wanted to learn to operate without relying on someone else exclusively in a partnership.
Once, I experimented with a partnership (2.5 months). The lessons learned from that aren't worth the emotional disturbance and wasted time spent mentally processing through it all.
I do disagree with this sentence though:
True happiness can be found without human relation.
I've never, ever met anyone who can do this (achieve true happiness without having any humans around to relate to). Even Thoreau tottered back to society after preaching about solitude. I do find a value in solitude and find it beneficial and a healthy place to roll around in. However, it's not at all sustainable in a longer time frame.
At some point, after a few weeks/months/whatnot, you need other humans. We need other humans.
Most folks I know of who can last for a long time without human contact generally have some sort of chemical imbalance in their brain or some sort of mental illness to accompany it. I'm not saying there are not exceptions -- but few that I've witnessed or heard of. If you take anyone you knew and cut off their human contact, they wouldn't last long 'cept for sake of survival. I doubt few would find happiness in that situation.
Most folks who go out into the woods on their own have a purpose to keep them occupied, but most of them always come back in the end.
Sorry if I didn't clearly articulate my thoughts...
