Yo so here's a thing. I've had herpes 1 and 2 for most of my life. Since I was in my teens. I'm 100% asymptomatic. It allows me to start all my potential relationships with vulnerability and honesty as prerequisites, which is in an excellent exercise and something that's always been beneficial. I haven't past it on to anyone, that I know of anyhow.
ALSO, you can pass it on while not having an outbreak, though it's less likely. Just so you know. ALSO, if you really think about it, our fear of herpes, which is a non-life threatening, basically harmless for most people disease which happens to be transmitted via sexual contact is probably mostly related to puritanical beliefs regarding sexuality. Women are and can often be more adversely affected by societal bullshit and expectations in regards to purity, shame and sexuality and are therefore often treated like total shit or have a hard time with feelings of shame for having herpes. The way our society treats women who have a disease that does nothing to a person other than act as proof of their being sexually active is deplorable and rooted in misogyny. This isn't a death sentence. You might get sores sometimes (and then everyone will know your a dirty sex haver), and it'll hopefully force you into being an honest and more kickass person. Good luck mang!