Bridging monogamy & polyamory to rapid moving on for more emotional travelers

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#21
I wish I had a better answer for this.. I don't manage emotions very well and I have a tendency to either get very attached very quickly or completely detach myself emotionally once someone starts also showing emotional attachment. Ugh. I'm struggling very hard right now with an attachment to someone whos emotionally committed to their partner. I also find myself getting attached to people who I know are either incapable or don't want any sort of real relationship, and I'm not even sure that I'm capable or want that either. It also doesn't help that I struggle with pretty bad depression, anxiety, and a tendency to cope with those by drinking/drugs/etc. I do think there is a way to bridge monogamy and polyamory in a way that works specifically for those people.. and that you won't really know what that is without trial and error and probably some hurt feelings along the way.
 
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#22
I've never found a bridge between polyamory and monogamy, in fact I've just tried it recently, and failed dramatically, the only way to cope with this difficulty is live the moment, but also don't forget the past and think about the future, remember why you have your preferences whatever they may be, and objectively don't get mixed up into something you, or the person you like won't handle, there's 7 billion people in the world, if you can't find an arrangement with one then just find another that looks just like him/her
 

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There is no bridge between monogamy and polyamory. The only thing that's going to do is perpetuate unhealthy dynamics. If you're monogamous, you're going to resent your partner, or feel insecure, sharing them. That's why someone identifies as monogamous, they desire that they have one partner who is explicitly with them. If you were okay with polyamory you wouldn't be "bridging" the two, you would just be poly.
 

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