Relationships & the road

Benny said:
It sounds romantic but it's impossible to have a long distance monogamous relationship. Plus its boring as fuck. My experience is that you need to find someone who shares your interests or its going to bug you.
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Exactly what I think. It would just be a waste of time otherwise, going for days at a time sometimes not talking, him not knowing where you are. having other opportunities pop up on the road and not being able to take them...def find someone with ur interests yo
 
If its meant to work out it'll work out. Although I feel like most (thats the key word, i'm lucky because this isnt the case for me) people wont work out in a relationship if somebody is on the road a lot.
 
I might get shit for this--but in my years of traveling, I've begun steering away from any sort of relationship with fellow travelers. I'll be road dogs, travel buddies, boxcar bff's, whatever. But it would take an exceptionally awesome girl for me to consider having something more than a friendship with them.

Been there, done that, got a t-shirt.

We're flighty. We're restless. We've got the same stories about the same situations and you never know if this will be your last night together, or if jail or bad weather or god knows what will split you up.

I've found getting involved with girls who aren't familiar with this lifestyle of ours is actually pretty exciting. I know kids that won't involve themselves with "housie" girls/boys at all and others that agree. Opposites attact, and all that silliness, I suppose. Personally, I enjoy short breaks from hearing about so-and-so waited for (x) train at (y) yard.
 
before my parents married they were friends for like yrs , and being open with someone is the best bet
 
~Black river blues~


My cheatin' heart's being torn in two
I'd love to stay with you a while
But I gotta burn one thousand black river miles
Before I sleep
Before I rest
Cause I got two loves burnin' holes inside my chest
There is something you know I gotta do
Before I lay me down and sleep here beside you


When I get home
When I get home
When I get home


There's a two lane highway in my mind
My heart's divided by white lines
So what am I supposed to do
When the lane I love is the lane takes me farther from you

And that black river's
Callin' my name
And if I don't go I know I'll go insane
And I'll walk a thousand miles in these worn out shoes
And then I'll lay me down and sleep
here beside you

When I get home
 
When i was on the road i was "committed" to my boyfriend/fiance for the first few months in the end it was an open relationship. We both know that we are too sexual to wait for me showing up on his doorstep. It was an unspoken deal that we were in an open relationship though we did discussed and accepted it after I made it up to alaska. In the end he knew i would be with him(any guy i "hooked up" with on the road was just that a "hook up" a couple got clingy and i dipped outta town right quick) and i knew that any chick he hooked up with was avoided at all cost(hes just that type of guy if your a meaningless fuck...) in the end the open relationship was the way to go.

As humans, being sexual critters and all, I think hitting the road without your partner and either of you expecting to not fool around can be kind of a foolish thought in itself('specially if your younger). Beers are to be had and shit happens.

Open relationships while not within arms reach FTW. Everybody needs closeness sometimes.
 
I was with this girl in NYC for 2 and a half years, and it ended pretty tragically. She didn't trust me on the road (or didn't trust the lifestyle in general), and she tried enforcing rules. She actually eventually said I couldn't drink or smoke cigarettes at all. I lost a lot of closeness and love for her after she proved that she was serious about it.

I never cheated on her before that, but because of her totally trying to negate the whole point of why I do this, there was a lot of resentment on my side. So I ended up cheating on her, and yeah, shit ended really badly. We don't really talk at all anymore, and it's for the best. I can't even stand her at this point.

So yeah, I tried being in a monogamous relationship with an overly insecure and controlling girl, and it failed.

As always in life, it depends on the people =/
 
I've never had a monogamous relationship with someone who I didnt live/travel with at least most of the time... this has lead to long-term (year+) relationships the majority of the time (as long as I dont rush into things), but it also frequently leads to one of us getting bored/frustrated/cramped which eventually ends the relationship. On the plus side, at least I am friends with most of my ex's. While this has worked moderately well in the past, I'm thinking that I should probably change my habits to increase the length of my relationships... though I am not sure how. I havent really been in the relationship mode lately.
 
I don't know, I usually travel with my girl. It's comforting when you're stuck out in the cold or the rain or a sketchy situation to know that you have someone with you who you've known for a long time, and can trust no matter what happens.

I've spent a lot of my life just hooking up with people, and to be honest, it's not as fulfilling. I mean, yeah, there are some times where the biological imperative to have sex is the primary force in your mind, but I wouldn't trade someone I really care about for polyamorous relationships.

Logically, they make more sense, but monogamy increases the quality of my life at this moment in time, so it's what I want.

Plus, there's something about being stuck in random cities without money/transport/food/water that can bring two people closer.

mike
 
i've never traveled while in a relationship cause i always figured itd be difficult to stay monogamous while i'm on the road and they're surrounded by slutty city girls.
i've found someone who travels too though, and having a significant other on the road is both helpful and comforting.
it's muscles and a heater all in one haha.
 
Ya nothing like a warm body to get close to on a freezing train ride.. doesn't go over to well with the boys.
 
Me and my girlfriend have been together a little over 2 years and as it goes with alot of people when your settled and comfortable you get bored and etc etc etc. long story short i though monogamy was binding cheated on numerous occasions in the first year then once she finally left haha i realized that i had lost my best friend if not anything else. It was a long hard road after that but we eventually got together and i grew a new respect for the relationship we had and had a self realization that sex as great as it feels is JUST sex. So we're committed now but we are very welcome to the idea of bringing other people in whenever we wanta spark it up or just get bored. I'm content as well as she and now we can focus on what we feel are more important things in life. As far as being separated on the road we really have yet to be separate for more than a week so we'll see if anything changes if we're apart for a while.
 
i met my boyfriend on the road. he convinced me to come back home with him and we'd leave again in a month or two. we got here and he didn't wanna leave. we broke up, i'm on the road and he is in his house. it only broke my heart because he traveled for 8 years and then once he met me he was done.
 
I've been single for bout the past three years. Works better this way sometimes. Although recently I've been feeling a bit lonely.
 
I feel yah on that homes, its been about three years for me as well.
Also when you start getting up there in years you realize how hard it is to get a date, your just not young and eligible anymore. sucks I know
but I guess such is life.
 
naw gypsy, it´s jut that the longer you´re alone, the harder it seems, it´s not cause you´re less appealing. Then again, maybe you´re just an asshole? but that´s a whole other kettle of fish...
Anyway, don´t let it get you down
 
It seems the more im an asshole the more women are attracted to me. Whatever works....any excuse to be a dick i suppose. But seriously, i find it hard not to fall in love with anyone i travel with for extended periods of time, male and female,so it becomes hard to discern between a roadogs and potential gfs, so i usually don't bother trying to work the finer points out. Celibacy is alot cleaner. I like to keep it simple. So i guess i don't really date traveling girls either. There is a strange mystique about a clean girl with a house hahaha
 
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