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AlwaysLost
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Lets keep this conversation respectful please. I am seeking understanding of the human condition not to start a feminist-anti feminist flame war. A lot of times I don't think men understand women and vice versa. I believe in equal rights entirely.
I will preface this thread by saying that I have been socially retarded my entire life. For the first 33 years of my life, I was a very insecure person who had been forced to become a physical badass. I was bullying badly in school until I learned Bushidokan and JKD, then i became the psycho who beat up the "innocent-little letterjacket rich boys who had never bullied anyone in their life".
So on the outside, I was your typical alpha-male gorilla psychopath, while on the inside I was an awkward, self-loathing, ball of insecurity. I think this is why I could pick up women but never keep them.
Then I met my wife and she sorta normalized me. She taught me how to be kind and sweet and to accept myself. If i wasn't married, people probably would have thought that i was gay.. But I was socially awkward most of times.
AT 38 years old i figure what do i have to lose. I got tired of hating myself and being a loser a few months ago so I have begun an exploration of human behavior and interaction. Trying to fix my social problems.
Ok now to start the story:
I was at the hospital gift-shop buying a pop a few days ago and the aisles were very tight. This woman comes barging through. She's angry and walks through me like a man would do, broad shoulders and all. So I step aside, move my arm in a here you go you can get by gesture and say "Excewuse Me" a little too snidely.
She replied, "I don't need your permission to get by."
'Well the alternative was knocking your on your ass' I replied.
She realized I was not to be trifled with and that she'd made a mistake at that point. She apologized. Her anger had turned to fear. And it turns out that manslamming is a legitimate thing.
I know the correct response (for people who aren't super-sensitive like me) is to just keep moving and forget it. But I always need to know the meaning of every situation so here we go.
And I want to say this situation was aggravated by the cramped space. I don't typically man-slam. With adequate space, I step aside for women because its the gentlemanly thing that society expects you to do. I think its always right to step aside. The rudeness of her body language is what set me off because I felt bullied. It was a high-school level social response on my part left over from past trauma.
So here's the question?
1. She clearly thought she had equal rights to the space which I concede is true. Was she exploiting being a female so that I would step aside?
2. Or do women not understand the dominance games that we male gorillas play?
Because like it or not. Men sort out who's in charge real quick. We play our little games. When two men walk into each other, the "weaker", or "lower status" one steps aside. Unless they are old or have physical impairment. Sometimes its just as simple as one person is nice and the other is rude. I've gotten out of the way of littler guys because i wasn't looking to "GO" at that particular time.
But if i thought a guy was challenging me and I wasn't in the mood to step aside. It would have been hockey time.
I am not trying to start a war here but to better understand the human condition. I admit I did the wrong thing. The correct thing to do was to step aside and forget about it. But Id like your insight into it because you all are way more fun and have way better insights than the trolls that respond to my podcast.
I will preface this thread by saying that I have been socially retarded my entire life. For the first 33 years of my life, I was a very insecure person who had been forced to become a physical badass. I was bullying badly in school until I learned Bushidokan and JKD, then i became the psycho who beat up the "innocent-little letterjacket rich boys who had never bullied anyone in their life".
So on the outside, I was your typical alpha-male gorilla psychopath, while on the inside I was an awkward, self-loathing, ball of insecurity. I think this is why I could pick up women but never keep them.
Then I met my wife and she sorta normalized me. She taught me how to be kind and sweet and to accept myself. If i wasn't married, people probably would have thought that i was gay.. But I was socially awkward most of times.
AT 38 years old i figure what do i have to lose. I got tired of hating myself and being a loser a few months ago so I have begun an exploration of human behavior and interaction. Trying to fix my social problems.
Ok now to start the story:
I was at the hospital gift-shop buying a pop a few days ago and the aisles were very tight. This woman comes barging through. She's angry and walks through me like a man would do, broad shoulders and all. So I step aside, move my arm in a here you go you can get by gesture and say "Excewuse Me" a little too snidely.
She replied, "I don't need your permission to get by."
'Well the alternative was knocking your on your ass' I replied.
She realized I was not to be trifled with and that she'd made a mistake at that point. She apologized. Her anger had turned to fear. And it turns out that manslamming is a legitimate thing.
I know the correct response (for people who aren't super-sensitive like me) is to just keep moving and forget it. But I always need to know the meaning of every situation so here we go.
And I want to say this situation was aggravated by the cramped space. I don't typically man-slam. With adequate space, I step aside for women because its the gentlemanly thing that society expects you to do. I think its always right to step aside. The rudeness of her body language is what set me off because I felt bullied. It was a high-school level social response on my part left over from past trauma.
So here's the question?
1. She clearly thought she had equal rights to the space which I concede is true. Was she exploiting being a female so that I would step aside?
2. Or do women not understand the dominance games that we male gorillas play?
Because like it or not. Men sort out who's in charge real quick. We play our little games. When two men walk into each other, the "weaker", or "lower status" one steps aside. Unless they are old or have physical impairment. Sometimes its just as simple as one person is nice and the other is rude. I've gotten out of the way of littler guys because i wasn't looking to "GO" at that particular time.
But if i thought a guy was challenging me and I wasn't in the mood to step aside. It would have been hockey time.
I am not trying to start a war here but to better understand the human condition. I admit I did the wrong thing. The correct thing to do was to step aside and forget about it. But Id like your insight into it because you all are way more fun and have way better insights than the trolls that respond to my podcast.