In my opinion yes, words with negative or bigoted connotations conflict with anarchist ethics/agenda.
First let me try and clear something up first though because it's not a straight YES, to assume that anarchist have an agenda, or would adhere to a "moral code of ethics" is just that, an assumption. Anarchists have forever questioned and fought moral code because it is derived from god, and by most part enforced by government, and they have always sought other means of growing communities in which these codes do not apply or exist, but a humanitarian view based on equality and anti-authoritarianism. Also for an agenda, it's hard to say considering that anarchists consist of many decentralized groups. There are lots of groups that are social-libertarian or unions, primitivists or activists that have agendas, even squats and bookstores and showspaces may have an "agenda".
But as we have all found a large percent of people who consider themselves "anarchist" do not usually have "ethics"(doesn't mean they're bad people) or an "agenda", and are free spirits roaming the outskirts of capitalism conquering personal quests. So once again, an assumption that anarchists even have ethics or agendas.
Now that i took so long clearing that up, i personally think that most if not all anarchists have ethics, and agendas. I've hung around tons of anarchist shops, community's, squats, camps, made friends with travelling anarchists and anchored anarchists, been to protests and riots; and they all, except a select few, have ethics and morals and a personal agenda they wish to inflict on the world. Morals like, anti-racism, anti-homophobia, anti-sexism,anti-nationalism, treating everyone with equality and fighting them with direct action on all fronts. And always searching for the root of the problem, to create a different community.Alot of these people have set up venues or spaces for people to escape skinhead culture, to escape their schools and their homes and find a safe place to interact. So when things like "faggot" are shouted instead of a clever mother fucker or punk bitches, it may spark the attention of people that have been trying their whole life to get negative ideas like that which are tools to lower energy levels and create dichotomy.
It's also not a straight yes because besides all anarchist attempts at "a better world" they are firm believers in personal liberty and free speach. And attempt to dissect the origins of these ideas and words and their effect on people.
So is it wrong to exercise their authority as owner and/or owners of the venue according to their own personal ethics/values/agenda anarchist or not?
Is it fascist to exclude bias and hatred? Are they themselves becoming fascist? what ever happened to free speach? Like i said, their own personal agenda.
Is it fascist to kick a nazi in the face? Are they exactly the same? or honest clashes of ideals that can grow into futures and rewrite history?
Is it naive to think it'll ever happen? Perhaps, but what else are people gona do.. stop trying?
And yes, words do hurt. Especially when you're 14. They shouldn't but they do, buncha pussies. mwahaha jokin'
In the end, my own opinion, whoever didn't punch that kid in the mouth is a fuckin moron. i've been to too many shows where the queers would gladly, and have, kicked anyones ass for that shit. And also, if you take that shit to heart you're a moron too, grow up, it's just a word,everyone needs to get past using nonsensical terminology that clearly we all spend too much fucking time talking and typing about. (especially me) Stop using it, stop caring about it, who gives a shit, why is everyone so dull these days anyway i swear they put something in chef boyardee that decreases the ridges on childrens brains. But god damn i love free speech as much as he loves saying faggots
The singer should just be a man and talk to the community space staff up front about his situation, i mean if the kids didn't tear down the place and eyeballfuck the band who cares. I guess some people do... in places that try to offer said environments. But shit man, they could be the next GWAR!!! wooo!! I was at one show, found out someone shit on their living room floor the next mornin, they could always do that.