Fuck man, I'm sorry to hear it. I'm from AZ and I know how fucked up the laws around pot are there, due to a charge that haunted me forever out of Yavapai County. Fuckers arrested me 8 years later saying I didn't pay fines, which I did. Ended up losing my vehicle and everything I owned due to that.
Ya, family shit can be hard to just walk away from, but ya, be careful getting another charge, that will totally fuck you. I know what ou are talking about with multiple DV's.
Im glad you are doing better, man. I hope peace finds ou, or you find it, either way. It's out there for everyone.
What part of AZ you from? I'm outta Flagstaff.