This is the honest truth about when to change oil right here. Every engine is made with different quality standards, modern innovations or lack thereof, etc. And climate and types of use play a big part. While grandma that never goes over 40mph might get 5k with a 4 banger and 10k or better with synthetic that cat that drives it like they stole it should PROBABLY change it around 3k if not sooner.
You really can tell the state of the fluids by look, feel and smell. Trans fluid will start to get a slightly burnt odor and motor oil as mentioned will look darker and feel thinner.
If you wanna be that bloke that gets 250k miles on a 4 banger just keep an eye on the fluids. Whenever you gas up just pop your hood, take a peek, and do a quick visual on belts, battery and hoses. Catching anything early will only save you money and grief in the long haul.