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In this groundbreaking bestseller, Lundy Bancroft—a counselor who specializes in working with abusive men—uses his knowledge about how abusers think to help women recognize when they are being controlled or devalued, and to find ways to get free of an abusive relationship.

Heyyy we're on the wildflower discord together I think lol, welcome. - Sal

U know Texas and Florida are the worst plague-hit places to go right now right? Like that's become the most dangerous part of the country, and having corona once doesn't mean you can't get it again.

Also, as important as it can feel to TELL PEOPLE THAT THEY'RE WRONG when they're breathing down your neck - I think we shouldn't expect any amount of distancing, time away, reasoning, or personal achievements on our part to really change their minds. It's likely that if they're controlling and...

Hi brother - I don't know what exactly they labelled you "diseased thinking" for, nor how your true needs and struggles compare to what the system says you need, but strong relate here. I've also survived the abduction, incarceration, and assault with drugs known as "mental health intervention"...

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Des, sending you a message. So have any of you paid taxes on a property you didn't own yet? How did that work / did it not draw unwanted attention to you? Looking now at how to get the "delinquent tax roll/ tax delinquent list" from a county treasurer and find properties that are delinquent on...

Florida is definitely a hard place to hitchhike out of, it's harder to get a ride there than anywhere else I've ever been. If a craigslist ride or bus ticket will get you to Mobile or New Orleans, hitchhiking gets easier there in my experience. Standing at the beginning of onramps to the...

It's a mistake to think that the aim of all mobilization and street organizing is just 'protest'. Different ballgame, calls for different precautions.

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I slept under the boardwalk on coney island this summer the night after mermaid parade, it'd be cold now though. Also I just stayed on a subway all night once in a pinch, me and another guy had the same idea and mostly slept undisturbed, the one worker who saw us was cool about it.

hell yeah lmk if I can help you destroy the economy

Lupo you asked what I was referring to so I provided those links as examples of where people kept writing t***** for no reason

Lupo - I linked to the specific posts like you asked, and being calm while people act like one's basic rights are a fun theoretical debate, is actually really, really inappropriate. Not least because people can stay PERFECTLY DAMN CALM while reinforcing a dominant culture of transphobia, public...

@Lupo The Pronouns Thread | Squat the Planet - https://squattheplanet.com/threads/the-pronouns-thread.39325/post-286087 and first post on page 4 and tenth post on page 4 and seventh post on page 5?

Mods - If I wrote saying that it should be accepted for me to write (generic racial slur) here, would I simply be asked to stop, or would that content be removed? I think the latter has often been done - Can we apply the same standard here, so our most-prominent conversation about trans rights...

Most of what could occupy an "ask trans people" thread has either been answered a million times already, so maybe ask an archivist/librarian/educator/search engine, or is best screened by the asked first asking them self, "Is this any of my business at all?"

So there's a fundamental disagreement here about what the point of sharing this information is. One purpose people can come to the conversation with is to educate people about what it's like to live in a way that's been marginalized by dominant, abusive forms of power, give trans people a chance...

'Cis-gender' = '*same* gender' = person living as the gender they were assigned at birth. Society almost ALWAYS looks at people being cis-gendered as the 'POSITIVE', correct thing. It is the opposite of an othering insult. Anyone is free to reject the term for themselves. In general, it's a good...

Thanks, I hadn't thought to download it in time

The underlying problem - Even if Matt has been considerate and acting in good faith - whatthis conflict has brought up is a string of other people going "haha yeah, the woman they were talking about (who used to moderate and was burnt out by this same kind of trivializing!) shouldn't care...

Just gonna link this here, with attention called especially to Chapter 2 ("The Mythology") and Chapter 11 ("Allies"). https://squattheplanet.com/files/why-does-he-do-that.481/ I think it articulates, better than I can, the problems with 'therapizing' abusers, and with the idea that 'cancel...

It's confusing to me that folks are treating the word 'transphobia' as if it's 'name calling / labeling a person' instead of a description of actions - a subjective description that can be disagreed about - but treating it like it's a character attack in itself, kind of misses the point that...

Wait do you have to tell them you're entering on a work visa? Because I recently made my first trip to Quebec and told them I was just going into Canada for the weekend (more or less true) and they asked me a few questions but nothing major, lied and said no arrest records and they didn't...

Was I off the topic of the original post, sure, yes. But I was on the topic that you asked me about - I was just responding to what you said. Thanks for trying, I guess, to be helpful in private messages - But understand that people's expectations of a helpful outcome, might not be as high when...

To be transparent and maybe save my breath, here's my own reply to the moderator message I just got: Hi - Right now I'm more curious about your guess that this was not really the reason I don't participate here much. There's some other reason you think is the real one that I don't know about...

I definitely already have, to the degree that it seemed relevant/productive. And you, of course, don't have to take a shot in the dark - but since you already have, sure, why in fact do I not post here much in your imagination?

Maybe there is an appreciable difference between "making up lies" and "disagreeing about what actions are transphobic."

Hey - I don''t interact here much any more because of the casual sexism as social bonding game but I'm really glad you made it this far, and I can't really know what it's like to be a trans woman etc, but if you ever want to chat feel free to throw me a line

This is something truly beautiful, thanks. Of course even ""Communist"" cops end up favoring far-right gangs when push comes to shove.... did they use that much force to evict the fascist squat??? Real communism is the work of no state, working people have no nation! Nice little shout-out too...

have fun!

also a 2-person hammock under a 10x10 tarp can be easier than a tent to keep dry in the weather

I'm gonna be in Montreal tomorrow, HMU! Great art!

There's no union that represents the interests or needs of these miners. Anyway if you have any friends/family w a few dollars here's there strike fundraiser and more info: https://actionnetwork.org/fundraising/79d3da4c086bc1598eb1f50b70f98bba9acabcd3?hash=340f6b1f35483f3a493882f9640809ce

All for it Except that those changes in my own life would mean v little to me personally I ask myself what it would take To build capacity, to find weaknesses in supply chains, etc

Started hitchhiking towards Hartford and figured I'd just get a cheap bus to New York there, but a woman picked me up and brought me all the way to the Bronx! The beach early on before the crowds got there... The Narwhals and the Atlantians: "MAKE MANHATTAN THE NEW ATLANTIS" GY!BE...

Coney Island what's up! 🦀

I mean, he was pissed off that I wouldn't tell him where I was sleeping. So yeah.

Yeah I think he had a buzzcut, white/silver hair, kind of short guy. Had a black baseball hat w/ vietnam vet patches on it.

Anyway. As we all know. If we love someone who's faced a kind of exploitation that we haven't. Then we LISTEN TO THEM, about how common and structurally encouraged it is. And we put EFFORT into demonstrating, with our ACTIONS, that we won't treat them that way, and won't turn a blind eye when...

We need a world's-smallest-violin icon up in here... [Tfw you want to form relationships of love, which REQUIRES JUSTICE, with people who've been marginalized in a way you haven't, but it ~hurts too much~ to hear about common forms that objectification takes 😿😿😿]

They don't. The two genders concerned here are Men and Fleshlight With A Post-It Note Attached

Lol, I actually know when I'm being read and treated as a fully human being and when I'm not. And when entrenched social structures encourage my treatment as fully-human or not. No one has any reason to have "faith." And as for my interests, well, why on earth would I share anything so precious...

I'm pretty sure that, no matter *what* level of consciousness we're on, our desires and actions are expressions of our DNA, reading and continually modifying/being modified by its ecosystems... I'll take a pass on all the claims of 'seeing through the veils', this-and-that revelation, seeing...

Hey - sorry we didn't get to meet up when I was in Cali, and sorry you're in this situation now - it would still be rad if our paths could cross at some point - I'm cleaning for rich people right now. I've been in situations where I feel a lot like I'm wasting resources and time no matter what I...

Hi - sorry you had to leave your kids behind - yeah, any sign that you think of yourself as a person with rights is proof of a manic episode to those shitheads - the systems not broken, it's just built to break us - but hey, you broke free from not just one cult but two! Peaceful trails...

Hey Kittybutts obv I don't know details but I just wanted to say, yeah, it's completely uncalled for for anyone to tell you "you'll be assaulted if you don't depend on me / follow my advice" (I, uh, had a straight woman pull similar shit on me including writing graphic fantasies about how I'd...

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Yes I know that and the comparison is gross.

Think about how people labeled with "lower IQs" are hyper-exploited in sub-minimum-wage "sheltered workshops" And how those that would live off-grid are often stopped by being put "under guardianship" where someone else gets a dictatorship over their housing and medical decisions Think about how...