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damn, that's twice tonight you've hit the nail on the head!
Damn. I was trying out something new called "sober typing". I should try is again sometime, apparently it works great.
I've read Muscio's Cunt; it ain't perfect (what is?) as, but I heartily recommend it.

Don't y'all think that saying "man whore" indicates that a "whore" is defined as a woman (thus it must be noted when it's not referencing a woman)? And if that's true, doesn't that make the use of the term "whore" (or "man whore") sexist, and so wouldn't we rather drop it from use?

Aw, I was hoping the hardcore primivitist would make the whole the whole "Civilization loves to arbitrarily classify things needlessly!" argument so I wouldn't have to.

So can we all pretend I made a good argument against arbitrary classifications, minus the typical whininess/elitism of the "anit-label" crowd?

If i can get laid with her the first nite we meet, yes she's a slut
But your remark also implies she got laid the first night you met. So, are you degrading yourself or holding a double standard?
Anyway, I say a person is a slut if they accept money for sex. Slut and whore and prostitute become synonymous. If someone, male or female, digs sex and has a lot of it just out of their pure, unrequited love for the act itself, I don't think they're a slut, though.
What's wrong with having sex for money? Capitalism is a system where the worker gets fucked in the ass while the pimps take all the money- at least the prostitute has the decency to be honest about the transaction (probably why they get all shit). Hell, I'd be a street whore than a walmarts whore any day.
Sounds to me like you have a grudge towards guys...and none of this is true...I've heard plenty of females use it in the exact same context that you're accusing only guys of. There's nothing wrong with having alot of sex. It's human nature! It's society who frowns upon it, so it MUST be bad...FUCK NO!! Just because it's out of the norm for society, doesn't mean it's a bad thing

Most of their argument still holds true. Its pretty typical for the oppressed/dominated/whatever group to accept and enforce their own social role. Otherwise they'd simply overthrow it. Just because the obedient slave snitches on the disobedient one, it doesn't change whose in control. However, I'll agree with the second half of your post.
 

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@LovelyAcorns, I never said that getting paid for sex is a bad thing. I don't see slut as a bad word, though. I really don't see any words as bad words.
 

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Sounds to me like you have a grudge towards guys...and none of this is true...I've heard plenty of females use it in the exact same context that you're accusing only guys of. There's nothing wrong with having alot of sex. It's human nature! It's society who frowns upon it, so it MUST be bad...FUCK NO!! Just because it's out of the norm for society, doesn't mean it's a bad thing
I never said anything about promiscuity. Sl*t is an expression of contempt. I don't have any comment on the frequency of anyone's sexual practices, as it would be completely arbitrary.

And LovelyAcorn said the rest perfectly.
 

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If i can get laid with her the first nite we meet, yes she's a slut

What led you to this conclusion?

Wartomods, you must not have much going for you, if that's what you think, hahaha.

I don't use that word slut, though I have used synonyms like "media whore," though I probably shouldn't, since I don't hold anything against people who trade sex for money.
 

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wartomods said:
If i can get laid with her the first nite we meet, yes she's a slut

I believe the term gets more use against a woman when a dude can't get laid on the first date.

connerR said:
Anyway, I say a person is a slut if they accept money for sex. Slut and whore and prostitute become synonymous.

Anyone who labors for pay is prostituting themselves, their bodies. Why should one line of work be denigrated with insulting, mean, pejorative terms?

I guess that "slut" - how I'd understand it if I read or heard it as a description - refers to a highly promiscuous person, one who is not at all discriminating in accepting partners.
But certainly not a professional.
 

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Slut =
1. A person who sleeps with a large variety of individuals not for pleasure but to manipulate them for the slut's own personal gain. Such as seducing a work superior in order to get a promotion. Normally sluts will tell all their partners that they're the only one in order to manipulate them as much as possible. A slut can just as easily be male or female.

2. An individual with a higher than normal sex-drive and a good sense of humor.

Whore=
1. An individual that openly accepts money in exchange for sexual favors.

2. An individual with a higher than normal sex-drive and a good sense of humor.



These are obviously my definitions but it all seems pretty straight forward to me.
 

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Slut or slattern is a pejorative term meaning an individual who is sexually promiscuous. The term is generally applied to women and used as an insult or offensive term of disparagement, meaning "dirty or slovenly."[1] It may also be used as an expression of pride in oneself or envy at the sexual successes of others
 

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Slut, is a term given by label whores!
 

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I love the word 'slut', but I hate the word 'whore'. 'Whore' to me is a derogatory term for a sex worker. Now, there is good 'slut' and bad 'slut', but in the context of my world it is a celebratory term for someone that embraces their sexuality and those of others. This is a short answer to a very subjective question.
 

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i usually define slut as one who lacks any self respect in their sexual nature, that will go bang anyone just for the sake of "their cute" or that the person just wants to get laid and will do anyone that comes their way.
 
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i dont like useing the word slut instead i use the word hobosexual(at least with in the traveling community). but i feel like i use hobosexual in a rather similar way to the word slut.
to me someone who is a hobosexual does the following things
- sleeps with anyone apon meeting them and then hangs around untill "something better comes up"
- sleeps with someone so that they might want to take them traveling
- gets drunk in "jungle" and invites anyone with a dick to fuck her
- probably has unprotected sex and then doesnt get tested
- brags about all the "cool traveler guys" shes slept with
- if under-age brags about being "jail bait"
- manipulates men and women into doing things she wants them to because they have had sex with her or her "partner", past or present


i have been called a slut before and i dont deny being promiscuous but i am not a slut. i enjoy haveing sex and not currently but in the past have had casual sexual partners where there is an understanding that there is no need for the wine and dine deal. we were attracted to each other and wanted to have sex, many times with out the strings of an emotional relationship. ive had sex with many of my male bodied friends sometimes it was a one night stand some times its happened a few times where we havent seen each other in months we spend a few days together we fuck one and go our separate ways. i dont see this as bad or immoral as long as its not hurting anyone. and believe me ive fucked up before and not communicated my wants or needs to people and have hurt them. but i think thats what it boils down to honesty and communication with the people yer fucking and ta-da not a slut just someone who likes sex... alot.
 

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I think that the pre-meditation of everything classifies this person as a slut.

It's a damn shame when things like this end up all over the friggin' internet. I feel fairly lousy for whoever this is. Unless it's a joke/forced meme type deal, then, props.

I haven't posted my official stance on this "slut" business yet.

The word itself usually bothers me, but how much it bothers me is dependent on the tone in which it's said. There are times that I've heard it said in a positive way, but those are few. I've heard it used fairly equally by both males and females, so I'm not going to distinguish between the two as far as usage goes. Like a lot of you already said, I feel that it's usually intended to mean a person (usually a female person, but not always) that is promiscuous.

Personally, I don't think there are any sluts (and conversely, no prudes either). Given this belief I can't understand why the word bothers me so much. I think it's everyone's innate desire to experiment sexually to some degree, and some much much more than others. And this shouldn't be judged. In the end it's between the people engaging in sexual acts how moral or immoral their actions are.

For instance, when I was married I only slept with my husband. I was free to flirt with other people, but any sexual interaction beyond that made my husband very sad and uncomfortable, and the last thing I wanted to do was make him feel that way. I am currently seeing/sleeping with two people that I am not in any sort of formal relationship with. They're both aware of this and feel the same way. If I want to fuck other people (or if they do) we're all in agreement that this is our own business as long as measures to prevent disease are properly taken. I don't see any of this as the list bit amoral or unreasonable.

I get called a lot of things because of how I choose to express my sexuality. I don't mind being called promiscuous, polyamorous, or hypersexual. But the tone in which slut, easy, whore, etc. are used pisses me off. Sometimes it's ignorance or jealousy, and sometimes people say these things with the express intent of hurting another person. And the sheer hypocrisy of it all makes it worse. I've had people call me a slut and then sleep with me anyway. If they think that I'm such a slut, what the hell does that make them?

Wartomods, I sense some self-esteem issues here. I'm not pissed about what you said, but something in that vein usually makes me angry. There are a great number of people I've slept with within twenty four hours of meeting them. And a lot of the time it is a purely physical/hormonal/impulsive thing, and sometimes I never even see them again, and I think this is fine. I want to make a distinction here. I have sex a lot because I like sex a lot. I don't feel cheapened by it. I don't feel lost and alone without it. This is a terrible analogy, but it's like cheesecake. Cheesecake it GOOD. If I had it around all the time, I might eat a little bit, often. I haven't had any in months, and this is alright with me too.

There are people that are hypersexual for other reasons. Some use it as a coping mechanism, sometimes it can be a form of self-torture like cutting, sometimes people really feel that they have no value beyond sex. These people need help (either from themselves or others), but similarly shouldn't be judged because of their actions. I've met people like this, and I just want to make it clear that being a "slut" isn't always a healthy thing. It's always dependent on the people and situations in question.
 

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Here is the history of the word copied from wiki

Slut or slattern is a pejorative term meaning an individual who is sexually promiscuous. The term is generally applied to women and used as an insult or offensive term of disparagement, meaning "dirty or slovenly."[1] It may also be used as an expression of pride in oneself or envy at the sexual successes of others.
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Etymology

Look up slut in Wiktionary, the free dictionary. Although the ultimate origin of slut is unknown, it first appeared in Middle English in 1402 as slutte (AHD), with the meaning "a dirty, untidy, or slovenly woman."[2] Even earlier, Geoffrey Chaucer used the word sluttish (c.1386) to describe a slovenly man; however, later uses appear almost exclusively associated with women.[2] The modern sense of "a sexually promiscuous woman" dates to at least 1450.[2]
Another early meaning was "kitchen maid or drudge" (c. 1450), a meaning retained as late as the 18th century, when hard knots of dough found in bread were referred to as "slut's pennies."[2] A notable example of this use is Samuel Pepys's diary description of his servant girl as "an admirable slut" who "pleases us mightily, doing more service than both the others and deserves wages better" (February 1664). In the 19th century, the word was used as a euphemism in place of bitch in the sense of "a female dog."[2][3]
Similar words appear in Dutch, German and Swedish dialects meaning "a dirty woman," indicating a common ancestor in Germanic languages. The word entered the colloquial Yiddish as "akhsluttishkha" meaning "a hag". It exists in Ukrainian too as slutyj as a loan word from Yiddish or via the mediaeval Scandinavian Varangian colonists in Kievan Rus'. A popular theory connects slut to earlier Germanic forms meaning "slush" or "mud puddle," but this derivation remains in question.
Common usages

The accepted denotative meaning is a sexually promiscuous woman[4] or "a woman of a low or loose character; a bold or impudent girl; a hussy, jade."[5] These definitions identify a slut as a person of low character — a person who lacks the ability or chooses not to exercise a power of discernment to order their affairs, such as a cad, rake, or womanizer. The adjective "slutty" carries a similar connotation but can be applied both to people and to clothing and accessories, such as Halloween costumes. [6]
The term slut is therefore frequently used as an insult. The derogatory power of the term derives both from its denotative meaning of a promiscuous woman, but also from its historical and regional connotations or alternate meanings that identify a slut as a dirty or unkempt person. These additional meanings and connotations are negative and identify a slut as being a slovenly and ugly person, for example as in these quotations from OED2:
Hearne, 1715: "Nor was she a Woman of any Beauty, but was a nasty Slut."Shenstone, 1765: "She's ugly, she's old,... And a slut, and a scold." The attack on the character of the person is perhaps best brought together by the highly suggestive and related compound word, slut's-hole, meaning a place or receptacle for rubbish;[7] the associated quote provides a sense of this original meaning:
Saturday Review (London), 1862: "There are a good many slut-holes in London to rake out." The British journalist Katharine Whitehorn attempted to re-claim this latter meaning in a famous 1963 article in The Observer:[8] "Have you ever taken anything out of the dirty-clothes basket because it had become, relatively, the cleaner thing? Changed stockings in a taxi? Could you try on clothes in any shop, any time, without worrying about your underclothes? How many things are in the wrong room—cups in the study, boots in the kitchen? ... [this makes] you one of us: the miserable, optimistic, misunderstood race of sluts." This article prompted a flurry of correspondence, with many women writing in to describe their own acts of sluttishness.
Alternate usages

Recent times have seen alternate slang usages of the word slut. It is often used against gay males and bisexuals, comparing them without merit as people who are promiscuous in that they have, or are reputed to have, many sexual partners, or whose sexuality is voracious, indiscriminate, and shameful.
Slut is also used as a slang term in the BDSM, polyamorous, and gay and bisexual communities.[9] With BDSM, polyamorous, and non-monogamous people, in usage taken from the book The Ethical Slut, the term has been used as an expression of choice to openly have multiple partners, and revel in that choice: "a slut is a person of any gender who has the courage to lead life according to the radical proposition that sex is nice and pleasure is good for you."[10] A slut is a person who has taken control of their sexuality and has sex with whomever they choose, regardless of religious or social pressures or conventions to conform to a straight-laced monogamous lifestyle committed to one partner for life. The term has been "taken back" to express the rejection of the concept that government, society, or religion may judge or control one's personal liberties, and the right to control one's own sexuality.
A few porn stars have embraced the term as a badge of pride for a sex-positive person.
The term is also used (principally by women) to describe a woman dressed provocatively or a woman being overtly flirtatious.
British author Helen Fielding used the word in her Bridget Jones series to refer to slovenly or dirty habits. The series is written in the First Person, and it is not determined whether this apparent malapropism is an in character error of Bridget Jones, or part of Fielding's own idiolect:
"Check plates and cutlery for tell-tale signs of sluttish washing up[...]"[11]
 

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i dont like useing the word slut instead i use the word hobosexual(at least with in the traveling community). but i feel like i use hobosexual in a rather similar way to the word slut.
to me someone who is a hobosexual does the following things
- sleeps with anyone apon meeting them and then hangs around untill "something better comes up"
- sleeps with someone so that they might want to take them traveling
- gets drunk in "jungle" and invites anyone with a dick to fuck her
- probably has unprotected sex and then doesnt get tested
- brags about all the "cool traveler guys" shes slept with
- if under-age brags about being "jail bait"
- manipulates men and women into doing things she wants them to because they have had sex with her or her "partner", past or present


i have been called a slut before and i dont deny being promiscuous but i am not a slut. i enjoy haveing sex and not currently but in the past have had casual sexual partners where there is an understanding that there is no need for the wine and dine deal. we were attracted to each other and wanted to have sex, many times with out the strings of an emotional relationship. ive had sex with many of my male bodied friends sometimes it was a one night stand some times its happened a few times where we havent seen each other in months we spend a few days together we fuck one and go our separate ways. i dont see this as bad or immoral as long as its not hurting anyone. and believe me ive fucked up before and not communicated my wants or needs to people and have hurt them. but i think thats what it boils down to honesty and communication with the people yer fucking and ta-da not a slut just someone who likes sex... alot.

Exactly!
I couldn't have said it better myself- I agree 100%
 

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