James Meadowlark
Sonic Reducer
I think I picked the most appropriate spot for this thread, but if not I hope the moderators will move it.
So I have friends that I've known for 25+ years and I would trust with my life- the kind of friends that are closer than family, and everything's been great for a quarter century, which is pretty fucking amazing. I absolutely love all of them.
One of them has lately begun to kind of fade away- Less and less responsive to the occasional email or phone call, or attempt to hang out or have a conversation etc. to the point that it's become totally one-sided on my end, and it sucks.. We've been slowly circling the drain for about a year or so. I don't think I've (or she for that matter) has done anything wrong or offensive, I think it's just life going different directions, and that's OK, it's just a tough pill to swallow. There are no social nor medical issues that I'm aware of.
I think it's time for me to admit that my efforts have been exhausted with no reciprocation, and I should just move on, but I'm struggling...
I know that we've all experienced the ebb and flow of friendships in our lives, but this is almost worse than a romantic breakup if that makes any sense.
I was married for ten years, and when that fell apart, I actually got over it faster than I expected- Mostly because I (and she was for sure) miserable for that downward spiral.. After I caught my breath post-divorce, my life (and her's as well) has been a billion percent better- so it was a good thing.
This just makes me sad.
So I have friends that I've known for 25+ years and I would trust with my life- the kind of friends that are closer than family, and everything's been great for a quarter century, which is pretty fucking amazing. I absolutely love all of them.
One of them has lately begun to kind of fade away- Less and less responsive to the occasional email or phone call, or attempt to hang out or have a conversation etc. to the point that it's become totally one-sided on my end, and it sucks.. We've been slowly circling the drain for about a year or so. I don't think I've (or she for that matter) has done anything wrong or offensive, I think it's just life going different directions, and that's OK, it's just a tough pill to swallow. There are no social nor medical issues that I'm aware of.
I think it's time for me to admit that my efforts have been exhausted with no reciprocation, and I should just move on, but I'm struggling...
I know that we've all experienced the ebb and flow of friendships in our lives, but this is almost worse than a romantic breakup if that makes any sense.
I was married for ten years, and when that fell apart, I actually got over it faster than I expected- Mostly because I (and she was for sure) miserable for that downward spiral.. After I caught my breath post-divorce, my life (and her's as well) has been a billion percent better- so it was a good thing.
This just makes me sad.