Sex for a wheelchair-bound individual w/cerebral palsy (1 Viewer)

Juan Derlust

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OK, everyone familiar with my content knows I'm a bit of a clown/gadfly/whatever. My disclaimer here is I'm serious: I am casting about for ideas/resources for a 26 year-old Latin cis hetero virgin male with cerebral palsy - this isn't some personal fetish or social media stunt. For the sake of candor, I am a 54 year-old white cis hetero male half-Catholic half-Jew (only in America, right?). As a friend of the family, considered 'worldly' (though I've earnestly tried to persuade otherwise), I'm being recruited to make this happen somehow. I don't even know where to begin. I'm not looking for anyone on here - I'm looking for the kind of thoughtful feedback I've often found here. And if any comedians want to make hash out of it, do your best... I'm not going to post an image of the guy without his consent, which may or may not be forthcoming. And anyone offended by my use of the Q word go ahead and school me - I'm here to learn.
 
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guessing a trip across the border to NV where there is legal prostitution (only do I assumr by hearsay) is either fiscally unrealistic or otherwise unappealing...?
 
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Good idea - I can't believe I didn't think of it myself (stationed 2 years at Nellis Air Force Base).
I would probably have to be the chauffeur/chaperone/diaper-changer/catheter-inserter, so I'll flag that as the not-my-first-choice-but something-I'm-willing-to-do option
 
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Here's two maybe relevant articles by a sex educator w cerebral palsy:

Also yeah, now that CL 'encounters' is gone, the horny craigslist people are displaced, wandering, and dispondantly replying to *every craigslist ad for anything* with weird doomed sexts...
"ur selling a table? wanna fuck?" "dog walking offered and then what lol?"
 
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Thank you @salxtina for your sensitive thoughtfulness

Great articles - I am not sure how to get him from where he is even to that point, but I'm going to share them. Part of the issue is dealing with his mother, who is fully on board, but also a bit of an obstacle. I mean, he's mostly housebound - kind of a janky low-rent apartment complex.

I don't get the impression he's interested in 'dating' - he watches a lot of porn, and (sadly) I think it's had a deleterious effect on his whole pair-bonding paradigm

there are hundreds of articles regarding dating with disabilities online but no resources for somebody mainly/solely interested in sex services
 
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I just got word Nevada is out - he needs to be close to/at home

I'm thinking of soliciting at any of the myriad local strip clubs or massage parlors, but I don't want or know how to not give the impression I'm not some undercover vice goon

this is Gardena - gateway to the south bay Los Angeles metro area
 
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And @Engineer J Lupo - taken in the intended spirit - you are sensitively thoughtful also, so thank you too

not forgetting about you @roughdraft -

beginning to sound like Dorothy fixin to leave Oz
 
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Massage parlors will be tricky. They bug out on anything out of the ordinary. I don't mean him being out of the ordinary but rather you showing up with him and being like "yeah.. so make sure he's happy when it's all said and done.." or however you plan on arranging that. Two people together would immediately cause alarm for them and they'd just give him a nice PG rated rub.

You can probably still find independent masseuses who advertise locally, google massage for your area and see if any look like just a person at their house kind of thing.. a lot of times it'll just be a name like "Massage by Chloe" or some shit. I'd suggest going solo by yourself first time(for research). If you get the works, pay generously and maybe inquire about your friends needs afterwards? I feel like you could set that up after showing them you're not a jake.
 
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I imagined a similar strategy but I appreciate another brain's input - and I understand what you mean by out of the ordinary, no harm no foul
 
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I imagine there had to be some kind of alternative to CL casual encounters when it went away?

Do they still have those local papers with the ads for in-house masseuses? Maybe a local sex shop would still have something like that?
 
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Yeh I want to make sure I'm not overlooking anything obvious - I was kind of caught flat-footed by the whole thing
 
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Has anyone heard of rubmaps? I have a friend who is a total degenerate and I will call about this. You are gonna get this done no problem . Look in the yellow pages under escorts for one.
 
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I'll report back all I can - it may be worthwhile for someone else
 

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