Sex as a hobby

[vdem1]

So how about it guys? Can sex be a hobby? Not necessarily fucking but all things sexual. Sex topic discussions, researching sex, porn, thinking about sex, thinking about sexual exploits, future plans regarding your sex life, masturbating etc. Not to mention if you do have partner/s-planning new fun sexual things to do, thinking about what you have done and want to do, etc

What operationally defines something as a hobby? Can sex fit into that equation?

A friend of mine and I were discussing this and I think sex can totally be a hobby.

Person 1: What hobbies do you have?
person 2: I love to play my guitar
person 3: I like to go horseback riding and play croquet
valisa: I like to fuck. O.O

Mind you this is something I would TOTALLY say because it would be a fantastic response LOL

 

[sparky]

lol yeah I'd say it's a hobby. Is it just a past time done for pleasure and relaxation and not your main occupation?

 

[vdem1]

hey hey hey there sparky, I wasn't saying it's MY hobby. I'm just asking CAN it be a hobby? LOL

but I do kind of consider this my hobby hahaaha (not my ONLY hobby, but one of them hahah, the one I spend the most time thinking, discussing and doing haha) I use to do phone sex so it USE to be an occupation I suppose. I also use to teach sex ed to high risk youth a few years back. I also use to teach about consent while I was a rape crisis counselor.

IDK man..the sexuals, I decided to just embrace the shit LOL

 

[sparky]

Hey I'm not judging you or anything.

Are sex ed teachers and rape counselors in the sex industry? I thought that was only like porn stars, strippers, prostitutes and stuff.

 

[vdem1]

LOL I wasn't saying you were judging-I was just fucking around. BUT listed in the initial box-I mentioned just discussing sex/sexual things. There are A LOT of rape survivors that have questions about sex, though rape isn't about SEX as it's power and control, denying that it doesn't impact a person's sex life would be completely fucking nuts. and sex ed is all topics around sex-from STDS, protection, consent, the deed itself and random informational goodness.I wouldn't consider either of those to be in the sex industry BUT they are sex related

Suppose I should have better explained myself.

Basically, sex has ALWAYS been a huge topic of conversations, even when speaking with virgins. I even wrote a 20 page term paper on masturbation BOOYAA and got an A ::take a bow::

 

[Jive]

Not sure who normal human activities can be hobbies.
I know there are "foodies" which I guess it a legitimate hobby.

Just funny to think about.

 

[vdem1]

Not sure who normal human activities can be hobbies.
I know there are "foodies" which I guess it a legitimate hobby.

Just funny to think about.

My ex gf is a foodie. She is a Chef by trade and goes to a ton of restaurants and such trying different things, guessing which ingredients they use, compares them to other places, then tries her own techniques at home. She is all into pairing and food convos, new creations etc. I would say that is a hobby for sure. It's her passion, what she does. My mom, also a chef, did something similar. I suppose that is a hobby too, never even thought about that, but it is.

 

[Raging Bird]

It's a hobby for me. It's interesting to be a dude and thus the pursuer. You learn a lot about people by seeing what they respond to and what engages them sexually and emotionally. I'm fascinated by human personality and identity, and I like going out on different nights and saying "I'm going to be this person tonight." Some nights I'll drink and be boisterous and outgoing, some nights I'll do K and be emotional and intense, some nights I'll do molly and really try to bond with people. It's really interesting to see what type of girl responds to what.

I'm also obsessed with evopsych and spend a lot of time reading about human mate preferences and mating systems. So I guess if sex isn't a hobby for me I don't know what is.

 

[EphemeralStick]

Its totally a hobby! Especially when you factor in all the possible kinks and toys that go into it. Hell there are even BDSM conventions so that has to mean something. At this point I'll have sex with any sort of guy, if he strikes my interest. Big guys, little guys, tall guys, short guys, black guys, asian guys, middle eastern guys, white guys, middle class guys, crusty guys, business guys, fat guys, skinny guys. GOTTA COLLECT THEM ALL!
(totally a hobby)

 

[Tude]

hehe - totally a personal pleasure here.

 

[vdem1]

For me, it's not just the act of intercourse that makes it a hobby. It's also learning more about all things sexual, even weird ass fetishes, joking about it, history of sex and sexual acts, general discussions (not necessarily flirting but just talking about it), new toys that are out, even STDs and safety factors, relationship/intimacy dynamics, how its changed/evolved/devolved, WHY it's changed, I like to know other people's views, share experiences...etc.

MIND you, yes the act itself I've made into a hobby-serious shit, what do I do if there's nothing else to do, fuck myself or fuck one of my lovers LOL.

I've realized the way that I am, I also attract similar people. ALL of my friends are fucking horn dogs-doesn't mean we fuck or anything (my best friend is a dude soooo that's not really happening LOL) but it's always a topic that comes into conversation. THe horniest fuckers I know are my female friends ahahhaah, let me tell you, in the past people always talk about men being the ones with massive sex drives or being more open about sex but damn girls get INTO IT hahahaha.

<3 ladies <3

 

[vdem1]

At this point I'll have sex with any sort of guy, if he strikes my interest. Big guys, little guys, tall guys, short guys, black guys, asian guys, middle eastern guys, white guys, middle class guys, crusty guys, business guys, fat guys, skinny guys. GOTTA COLLECT THEM ALL!
(totally a hobby)

hahahaha I am totally inthe same boat (replace guys with gals) but yeah, I completely DO NOT discriminate what so ever. I am actually pretty impressed with my sexual diversity hahaha. That's the key point, if they pique my interest-it's on. OH man, and if they have similar interests and can make me LAUGH-FUCK YES that shit is GOLD.

 

[EphemeralStick]

Bath houses also help the sexual hobbyist, though I'm not sure if they have straight or lesbian bath houses. Never had to do much research into that area haha.

 

[Matt Derrick]

Bath houses also help the sexual hobbyist, though I'm not sure if they have straight or lesbian bath houses. Never had to do much research into that area haha.

bath houses still exist? in america?

totally entertaining thread by the way, i'm on the "yes it's definitely a hobby" side of the debate.

 

[vdem1]

Bath houses also help the sexual hobbyist, though I'm not sure if they have straight or lesbian bath houses. Never had to do much research into that area haha.

They only have them for gay dudes

 

[vdem1]

bath houses still exist? in america?

totally entertaining thread by the way, i'm on the "yes it's definitely a hobby" side of the debate.

Yeah they have them in pretty much all major cities.

Haha glad your digging the thread. This sprouted bc of an entire convo me and a friend had when I told him I don't really had hobbies. Apparently, I do. Lol

 

[EphemeralStick]

bath houses still exist? in america?

Oh they do. Theyre raunchy places that have terrible lighting and guys boning in public areas, all over the place. Its kinda funny. If you start doing anything remotely intimate with someone flocks of less than desirable guys appear to watch. like moths to a flame or a bad accident. its both hilarious and creepy at the same time!

 

[Matt Derrick]

Oh they do. Theyre raunchy places that have terrible lighting and guys boning in public areas, all over the place. Its kinda funny. If you start doing anything remotely intimate with someone flocks of less than desirable guys appear to watch. like moths to a flame or a bad accident. its both hilarious and creepy at the same time!

wow. im a little blown away. where does one find such establishments?

 

[vdem1]

OOOOH Look at matt, trying to get in on the goodness. Yes, inform mattski where he can find them hahha. Matt if you head down to so cal anytime soon, I can direct you to a few. LOL My buddy hits them up regularly-he's a pretty good looking dude too.

 

[Matt Derrick]

ha, yeah yeah i knew that was coming