So for most of my life I thought I lived in a society that wasn't ruled by men. I still do believe that. Somewhat.
I didn't really notice this until recently but a lot of the crappy stuff that has happened to me in my life have occurred because I was born with parts. Parts that, biologically, function for the same reason as men's. So it's all stupid and unfair to really everyone (Everyone) that some decisions people make are still based on gender.
Like someone grabbing my butt, or trying to kiss me because I just happen to be there. With some parts. Or treating me differently because a person saw my parts AND LO AND BEHOLD THEY COME A COURTING. Or doubting my work because of my parts or dragging me into an alley to rape me because of parts or my mother hating me because of my parts because she took some horrible idea (instilled on us by a society ruled by men that women need to compete) to the absolute extreme that I was abused and HATED by my MOTHER as a child.
Not to leave men out either! I still hear really really ridiculous stuff about how men shouldn't show emotions like crying. Or that they're pussies because they like something girls are expected to like and that they also need to buy into gender based lifestyles.
And it's still ridiculous that I have to talk about this. That it still hurts others just like me and can really really fuck them up in the long run.
So one thing was said to me a few days ago that really got this ball rolling.
"I want a pink cake!"-me talking about my birthday
"Oh, you're finally becoming a real girl!" -Someone who I really thought knew me.
So my first thought was "what was I before this? I always identified as a female and I never liked wearing pink.(oh guess what my mother made me wear nothing but when I grew up because "That's what girls do!") So that was degrading. Because I take pride identifying as this particular gender. As should everyone with whatever they feel/choose to be. And because of a a couple of x chromosomes and a choice I guess I'm still expected to go along with this slough of other stuff. And if you are into "that stuff" whatever it may be it doesn't measure what you are. Like, I'm trying to say all of this so everyone gets it. It's uncool. And you're not born with ignorance it's something taught by people who just don't understand something.
The worst part is that there are still places in the world where the virginity of a woman can mean life or death for her, where a girl can be married off without consent, or it's too fucking dangerous for a woman to walk down the street at night or someone will be killed because they don't identify with what they were assigned to.
it's just really ridiculous. When you think about it. There are zillions of stars, galaxies, worlds, and lives. We live on a planet that's mostly ocean where creatures like the blue whale swim. Where microscopic lifeforms convert sunlight to energy. Where people are dying over other stupid things like money. Where we all share a moon and sun and and brains and stuff. It's just a total fucking buzz kill in the grand scheme of things.
So just, educate yourself, educate others and think before you speak, really ask your self if what you say and do is really going to fuck up someone else. Just think about how fucking cool trees and blue whales and the human body (no matter the shape or size) are.
I dunno. There is still a lot more to say. I only scratched the surface.
I didn't really notice this until recently but a lot of the crappy stuff that has happened to me in my life have occurred because I was born with parts. Parts that, biologically, function for the same reason as men's. So it's all stupid and unfair to really everyone (Everyone) that some decisions people make are still based on gender.
Like someone grabbing my butt, or trying to kiss me because I just happen to be there. With some parts. Or treating me differently because a person saw my parts AND LO AND BEHOLD THEY COME A COURTING. Or doubting my work because of my parts or dragging me into an alley to rape me because of parts or my mother hating me because of my parts because she took some horrible idea (instilled on us by a society ruled by men that women need to compete) to the absolute extreme that I was abused and HATED by my MOTHER as a child.
Not to leave men out either! I still hear really really ridiculous stuff about how men shouldn't show emotions like crying. Or that they're pussies because they like something girls are expected to like and that they also need to buy into gender based lifestyles.
And it's still ridiculous that I have to talk about this. That it still hurts others just like me and can really really fuck them up in the long run.
So one thing was said to me a few days ago that really got this ball rolling.
"I want a pink cake!"-me talking about my birthday
"Oh, you're finally becoming a real girl!" -Someone who I really thought knew me.
So my first thought was "what was I before this? I always identified as a female and I never liked wearing pink.(oh guess what my mother made me wear nothing but when I grew up because "That's what girls do!") So that was degrading. Because I take pride identifying as this particular gender. As should everyone with whatever they feel/choose to be. And because of a a couple of x chromosomes and a choice I guess I'm still expected to go along with this slough of other stuff. And if you are into "that stuff" whatever it may be it doesn't measure what you are. Like, I'm trying to say all of this so everyone gets it. It's uncool. And you're not born with ignorance it's something taught by people who just don't understand something.
The worst part is that there are still places in the world where the virginity of a woman can mean life or death for her, where a girl can be married off without consent, or it's too fucking dangerous for a woman to walk down the street at night or someone will be killed because they don't identify with what they were assigned to.
it's just really ridiculous. When you think about it. There are zillions of stars, galaxies, worlds, and lives. We live on a planet that's mostly ocean where creatures like the blue whale swim. Where microscopic lifeforms convert sunlight to energy. Where people are dying over other stupid things like money. Where we all share a moon and sun and and brains and stuff. It's just a total fucking buzz kill in the grand scheme of things.
So just, educate yourself, educate others and think before you speak, really ask your self if what you say and do is really going to fuck up someone else. Just think about how fucking cool trees and blue whales and the human body (no matter the shape or size) are.
I dunno. There is still a lot more to say. I only scratched the surface.