speakthetruth
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here's a thought of mine that i feel not too many other people express but am certain that there are many who understand,,, So sometimes i'll meet some person, or even see one i've already met, and they will be with someone i haven't met before, and soon following either by me asking, or the person will introduce that one to me, but (most of the time) before the person even says the name , they say " this is MY girlfriend, blah" , or boyfriend, and then the name. To me, this sounds like a phrase coming from someone who likes to control things outside him/herself by extending a part of themselves unto someone who they share a relationship with, not just a friend who happens to also be a lover, but almost a possession when you throw the word "my" in with the introduction. alot of the time when we use those words girlfriend or boyfriend, the only difference from the word "friend" to most people is that a friend isnt a one with intimacy, which is what i disagree with because i havent had too many intimate relationships, nor am i currentely in one, but when i have a relationship with someone that includes intimacy, whenever in a scenario were i might introduce that someone, i will always say thier name, and depending on who im telling, if it's a dear friend, then ill let them know this is my dear friend too, so really i wont ever tell anyone that this person is "mine" by saying "my girlfriend" or "my boyfriend" , (unless that's maybe what they want) because when you hang out with that person and your other friends, your other friends will eventually get the picture that you and that person got something deep going on. The only things we have control of are ourselves.