Are You Living An Alternative Lifestyle? Want Support?

[Lord Strange]

O.k dokey, don't plan to turn this into a three ring circus or the cyber version of "Jerry Springer" but are you living an alternative lifestyle? BTW, I don't necessarily mean just being G.L.B.T.Q, but other lifestyles as well.
I thought I would start this thread for people who DO, and may need support. I know how hard it is, 'cuz I came out of the closet about being an A.B (Adult Baby) about twenty years ago. Let me tell you they will (eventually) accept it, and I think being honest can really help since (believe me) the parents get confused as hell.
But anyway, if you need support, I'm here for ya. Even if it's not you living the particular alternative lifestyle but someone in your family. I don't claim to be an expert, but I do claim to have had some experience with this myself. Like I said, I'm 38 and when I turned 19 it was like "I'm done hiding and trying to be someone I can't be" so I came out to the 'rents.
Also, if you have to deal with intolerance from others who either did not like your alternative lifestyle or simply were hateful bigots, can you share how you handled it?

 

[CooperBoo]

fuck yeah, sick

 

[godsahn]

I support this thread.

 

[RVLG]

I don't like how people use the word 'lifestyle'. It implies that everyone with a certain label acts the same. Most of us on StP live outside the norm, so it could be said that we all live 'alternative lifestyles'.

As far as sexuality goes, I don't think anyone really needs to know what I like to do in bed and with whom unless they want in my pants. If someone's curious, I won't hide anything. I simply feel that it isn't so important a topic. I did come out to my parents with some of my fetishes, and it was the most awkward experience I have ever had. I really wouldn't recommend it, especially if they are on the odd or illegal side. I have experience with a variety of fetishes and sexualities, and am also a safe person to talk to if anyone needs advice or wants to chat about it.

Other parts of my 'lifestyle' have caused friction with others. For one thing, I'm a Communist, so that causes obvious problems in the States. For another, I'm a dreadlocked local-food-only vegan obsessed with building a life so green as to actually benefit nature, so I "make life difficult" for people by living the easiest way I can (Honestly it's just them realizing how difficult their own lives are.). You wouldn't believe the hatred behind the "crunchy granola" comments I get. I'm up to six serious death threats and one failed assassination attempt(I'm not joking. Some drunk Tea Bagger tried to kill me for being a 'hippie commie fag'.) among less serious attacks involving things being thrown at me like eggs and bricks. My advice: keep the fuck away from the Deep South. If you aren't white, male, heterosexual, middle class, Christian, American, Republican, and Protestant, the area isn't for you. Thankfully the South is only that bad if you're none of the above like me. */sarcasm*

Most of the time I just ignore their stupidity and move on. When I can't, I have a knife, glock, and pepper-spray. If you're in Canada, you can carry a sword. Anyone who messes with someone carrying a broadsword across hir back is batshit crazy, which is conveniently when you might need the thing.

 

[acrata4ever]

My advice: keep the fuck away from the Deep South. If you aren't white, male, heterosexual, middle class, Christian, American, Republican, and Protestant, the area isn't for you. Thankfully the South is only that bad if you're none of the above like me. */sarcasm*

Most of the time I just ignore their stupidity and move on. When I can't, I have a knife, glock, and pepper-spray. If you're in Canada, you can carry a sword. Anyone who messes with someone carrying a broadsword across hir back is batshit crazy, which is conveniently when you might need the thing.

yeah south sucks but so does upstate new york. got really dirty looks walking with my family there. passing as white can be a curse and a lifesaver, i definately see the privleges but it makes me sick. i was raised a xtian socialist i adhere to those principles but i disagree with other xtians on stp. which is good sheep think is dangerous. yeah republicans and teabaggers are straight up nazis im really hoping for civil war and get this black and white thinking levelled off so the gray thinkers can actually have a change to change things with logic. is a machete considered a sword in canada or a gardening tool? where i live in caribbean america its the tool of choice. auto mechanics, cooking, digging a post hole, divorce etc.

 

[CXR1037]

I honestly have no idea what's going on in this thread and I think that's for the best.

What the holy fuck is an adult baby?

Also I agree with RVLG: keep these things to yourself unless someone wants in your pants!

 

[acrata4ever]

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Paraphilic_infantilism

 

[trash diver]

I am a bi-polar manic depressive with ADD.I also have a bit of a foot fetish (females).Trying to set a standard of ''normal'' for the human mind is difficult.We are very complex creatures. Bravo,acrata -to thine own self be true.

 

[acrata4ever]

nah im not really a freak. i have no problem with freaks though. and yes a gentleman shakes a transvestites hand the same way one shakes a ladies hand. if you get badgered simply say in a low voice no i wasnt fooled and decline to dance. and keep mingling.

 

[druid]

LOL. I love this shit. I ain't saying anything crazy when I say that unless you were actually born in the south you have no idea what it can really be like. I was and I do. I am on west coast now and love it. I have lost nothing east of Mississippi River. And yeah, I live an alternative life outside the cubicle nation of apple luvin, reality tv brain fucked, tweeting mental incest crazed sheeple. My only goal in this here fucking life is to get back to the land in the so green till it hurts way that I can. Good luck to all, and may the force protect you from the farce.

 

[dolittle]

First, an adult baby is a grown person who likes to be treated as a baby. Dippers, bottles, all that.
Second. As an out gay man, I'd like to say... I do not have a "lifestyle". I have a "life".
And third. I'm bout fed up with folks hating on the South. I was born & reared there. Yes, I am a white male. I'm also a Very OUT gay. It has been my experience that the only bigetry comes from Northerners who watch to meany old movies & don't care to take the time & effort to educate themselves to the truth. OR, just plain old truble makers.
Yes, there is biggetry & hatred & all that in the South. JUST like there is in the North & out West. From my experience, it is mostly promoted by wealthy people who use it as a tool to get more &/or hold onto their wealth. Us poor folk are way to buisy trying to rake up a dollar & feed our families to worry who is doing what. In the South I grew up in, {the POOR part,} the color of U'r skin isn't Near as important as can U pull U'r own wait.
Also, may I please point out, when U walk to the beat of U'r own drum, DON'T be supprised if U'r the only one who hears it.

 

[Hobacalypse]

Could i get some financial support?

 

[acrata4ever]

what is out gay?

 

[katbastard]

First, an adult baby is a grown person who likes to be treated as a baby. Dippers, bottles, all that.
Second. As an out gay man, I'd like to say... I do not have a "lifestyle". I have a "life".
And third. I'm bout fed up with folks hating on the South. I was born & reared there. Yes, I am a white male. I'm also a Very OUT gay. It has been my experience that the only bigetry comes from Northerners who watch to meany old movies & don't care to take the time & effort to educate themselves to the truth. OR, just plain old truble makers.
Yes, there is biggetry & hatred & all that in the South. JUST like there is in the North & out West. From my experience, it is mostly promoted by wealthy people who use it as a tool to get more &/or hold onto their wealth. Us poor folk are way to buisy trying to rake up a dollar & feed our families to worry who is doing what. In the South I grew up in, {the POOR part,} the color of U'r skin isn't Near as important as can U pull U'r own wait.
Also, may I please point out, when U walk to the beat of U'r own drum, DON'T be supprised if U'r the only one who hears it.

YOU might be taken more seriously if YOU use the word "you" instead of U. Mr. Ranty Ranterson

 

[MiztressWinter]

I honestly have no idea what's going on in this thread and I think that's for the best.

What the holy fuck is an adult baby?

Also I agree with RVLG: keep these things to yourself unless someone wants in your pants!

I laughed so hard I fkn choked on that second sentence.

I personally don't give a god damn about anyone else's sexual preferences. I don't judge..and I don't ask either, because unless you're the fucking me, it's none of my business.

 

[venusinpisces]

I worked as a professional dominatrix for a few months and encountered a few guys who could be classified as adult babies while I was there. There is one guy in particular who sticks in my mind. The place I worked at had a waiting area where the girls would wait in between calls and let the guys in and talk to them. So the guy comes in very nicely dressed with his cell phone in hand shouting orders about some project he was working on. No hello, no eye contact, nothing. The other girls were rolling their eyes at his rudeness. Our boss, Kitty, was an elderly woman who had been seeing him for years and she gave me instructions beforehand to walk in unannounced about 2o minutes in. So when I open the door I see her in a little grandmotherly sweater with a kerchief tied under her chin, which is already hilarious because this woman was a scandalous part-time coke dealer who didn't have a nurturing bone in her body. The guy is sprawled out across her lap wearing a diaper, with a bright red face screaming "I DONT WANNA!!" so loud the neighbors could have heard. I could not stop myself from laughing!!!

 

[Lord Strange]

First, an adult baby is a grown person who likes to be treated as a baby. Dippers, bottles, all that.
Second. As an out gay man, I'd like to say... I do not have a "lifestyle". I have a "life".
And third. I'm bout fed up with folks hating on the South. I was born & reared there. Yes, I am a white male. I'm also a Very OUT gay. It has been my experience that the only bigetry comes from Northerners who watch to meany old movies & don't care to take the time & effort to educate themselves to the truth. OR, just plain old truble makers.
Yes, there is biggetry & hatred & all that in the South. JUST like there is in the North & out West. From my experience, it is mostly promoted by wealthy people who use it as a tool to get more &/or hold onto their wealth. Us poor folk are way to buisy trying to rake up a dollar & feed our families to worry who is doing what. In the South I grew up in, {the POOR part,} the color of U'r skin isn't Near as important as can U pull U'r own wait.
Also, may I please point out, when U walk to the beat of U'r own drum, DON'T be supprised if U'r the only one who hears it.

Thats cool. Yeah, the South and those who lived there are often stereotyped (sadly). I look at as a regional culture that has many good and noble aspects of it (as do all cultures). I'm glad you don't feel the need to worry about having to be in the closet about being gay. It is a lot easier if you can just be your self without having to worry some idiot might resort to violence.
I don't really care if people agree with my lifestyle or not. Of course, I would appreciate it if the discrimination that sometimes happens to people with alternative lifestyles was done away. I think we can all agree that as long as you do your job at work in a good manner that satisfies the requirements for that job, your sexual orientation or lifestyle shouldn't be used to punish or discriminate against you.

 

[Lord Strange]

I honestly have no idea what's going on in this thread and I think that's for the best.

What the holy fuck is an adult baby?

Also I agree with RVLG: keep these things to yourself unless someone wants in your pants!

Thats funny; why is it that vanilla heterosexual couples seem to suck each others face off in public? I ask, because it seems (as far as I can see), that vanilla heterosexuals are ALWAYS pushing their sexuality in other's people faces. So my answer would be that when the vanilla heterosexuals stop pushing their sexuality into MY face, then I will return the favor.

 

[katbastard]

Thats funny; why is it that vanilla heterosexual couples seem to suck each others face off in public? I ask, because it seems (as far as I can see), that vanilla heterosexuals are ALWAYS pushing their sexuality in other's people faces. So my answer would be that when the vanilla heterosexuals stop pushing their sexuality into MY face, then I will return the favor.

ok how do i put this... I've got kids you see, and when 2 people are are kisses, or "sucking each others face off "in public no matter if its is two men, two ladies, or a hetro couple, that vanilla display of affection in public is ok for my kids to see. now if some person was say, crushing small living things, having sexual fun with an animal, bdsm games or dress up as a baby breast feeding and sitting in a shitty diaper in public where my kids could see, prepare for a hate crime to happen on you, by me.
my lady and i are pretty far from vanilla in our sex life, but i would not display those things in a public.

 

[Vonuist]

I identify as asexual, I don't want support, I just wish people would stop assuming that I was abused as a kid or some other cliched explanation for my "problem".

As Shakespeare had it, "man delights not me: no, nor woman neither"