i second attending an Al-Anon meeting. even if you're not attracted to the idea of 12 steps or a higher power...you can benefit significantly if you can overlook the extra shit..
edit: I know I did so I'm a witness and feel free to DM me on the topic @Childgoddess
i used to think the saying 'in wine lies the truth' or the americanized bastardization 'alcohol is a truth serum' was corny or too simple to be real but as time goes on I have to agree.
in some cases it's a good or OK unveiling of the person but I got in a house with some folks a couple years...